Girlfriend Goes out Clubbing
Posted Mon Apr 20, 2009 06:29 AM
Prom is coming up in a month and I'd like to go out dancing at least once before with her so it's not our first time. We haven't had a dance at school in the past 4 months so we haven't had a chance. I asked her yesterday if she would take me to Butter in the city with her next weekend because she's going, and she told me that I'd personally be happier if I didn't go.
She told me that I know how she dances and she doesn't want me to get hurt because she will be dancing hard with other guys and she knows I'd get upset. WHO WOULDN'T GET UPSET SEEING THEIR GIRLFRIEND GRIND WITH 20 guys. I know that she loves to dance and grinding is just dancing to her, no feelings for the guy at all... She doesn't view it as sex with clothes on. So truthfully she is looking out for my own good.
But I want to get experience with this type of stuff so how do I explain to her that I can handle it, I won't let it bother me. We could go, dance for a bit, then we'd go off on our own and then come back and dance again so we're not away all night. It's just that she specifically said that she wouldn't want to "babysit" me.
I'd just like to go get some dance experience before prom. Any help would be great!
Posted Mon Apr 20, 2009 07:01 AM
Actually, I'd have a talk with her beyond the dancing habits.
Posted Mon Apr 20, 2009 07:06 AM
Posted Mon Apr 20, 2009 07:40 AM
I've always been "the girl that dances with other guys". Just as you, my past SOs knew I liked dancing, and if they didn't dance themselves, then they knew they had to let me dance with someone else. Never had problems because there were boundaries. I could dance with whoever, but I would not cross the line when it came to getting sexually physical on the floor.
I know what your girlfriend feels about the world disappearing around her, but that's no excuse to do whatever she wants at your expense. I am very sorry to say, but she doesn't care that much about you, and she's using you to cover her time when she's not clubbing. It would be better you just let her have her fun in peace without you... maybe she'll find someone else, but I doubt she wants that... more likely she wants to keep all areas of her life busy with different guys and all sorts of attention.
What I would do if I were you and if you really want to learn how to dance, I would ask another girl to take you out to a club and show you how to dance. Maybe she could teach you a few moves before you go... that would be even better. By the way, that's a great way to start friendships with girls, and I'm sure more than one would be happy to help you. Do that a few times before the prom, and then voilà.
Posted Mon Apr 20, 2009 09:55 AM
Posted Mon Apr 20, 2009 02:47 PM
Posted Mon Apr 20, 2009 02:57 PM
2.) Babysit WTF!!!
3.) Dump her for someone better
keeps the updates coming
Posted Mon Apr 20, 2009 03:38 PM
Sounds like a Heartbreak waiting to happen!
Posted Mon Apr 20, 2009 03:43 PM
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Posted Tue Apr 21, 2009 11:30 AM
Posted Tue Apr 21, 2009 12:44 PM
Better to have a girl who doesn't know how to dance so you can scuff up each others shoes learning and laughing together.
Posted Tue Apr 21, 2009 01:53 PM
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Posted Tue Apr 21, 2009 08:10 PM
Yes I'm still with the same girl and I know I have many issues with her, but I'm crazy for her. She is moody at times and that is when she does things like this. But most of the time she is amazing which is why I am willing to put up with these issues.
Posted Wed Apr 22, 2009 07:13 PM
Posted Wed Apr 22, 2009 07:15 PM
Posted Wed Apr 22, 2009 07:38 PM
You need to put your foot down and realize this is not what you need or want.
It might be hard, and the cliche is true..
Theres plenty of fish in the sea.
( Disregard the actual fact of over commercially fishing areas has made profitable species near extinct to gone in some coastal areas )