Posted Wed Apr 29, 2009 09:32 PM
Posted Wed Apr 29, 2009 09:44 PM
Posted Wed Apr 29, 2009 09:56 PM
Tempted should probably not be in the mix if you want to marry and stay with your current boyfriend.
I will warn you on my own experience. I married my first and after felt tempted and wondered if i was missing something by not having had other people. I am not saying it was the main reason I left him but it played a part.
Be warned that temptation is a dangerous thing and if you have a strong temptation you need to deal with it.
Posted Wed Apr 29, 2009 10:06 PM
Posted Wed Apr 29, 2009 10:08 PM
When you're with someone for so long, its so hard to break that bond up.
Posted Wed Apr 29, 2009 10:11 PM
Thats the thing, I have never been in any emotional attached relationship with anybody else but him. I just want to know if I'm making a mistake or not. I should never typed tempted...Its more like tempted to break up. Not to cheat. I wouldn't cheat.
Gosh..I feel like everything I'm saying is coming out all wrong...basically what I want to ask is...How do you separate Long Term Blues from having real problems in the relationship?
Posted Thu Apr 30, 2009 06:07 AM
Posted Fri May 01, 2009 06:54 AM
because its not about what "might be" with another guy, it's about what is with your bf.
look at it this way, do you buy a new car every time one comes out?
no. that would cost you a lot.
Posted Fri May 01, 2009 10:28 AM
well idk how old you are but personally i spent most all of my young dating life in committed, long term relationships. even as young as 13! I never really had a one night stand or just a friend with benefits. don't get me wrong i don't want to be the town slut or whatever. but for years i always wondered if i was with the right guy. i knew they were good b/f's but good sex is important in a relationship too. my advice would be to play the field while you are younger and unmarried. it's up to you to decide if he is the right one or if you should weigh your options. but either way, don't want until AFTER you're married to realize you should have explored your options to be sure of your choice. i realized i had to do that for myself just a little too late. and i feel awful for breaking his heart less than a year after marrying him.
Posted Fri May 01, 2009 01:50 PM
Love that leads to marriage should mean that a person is willing to sacrifice anything for that person logicly speeking. In this case you should be willing to sacrifice the flattery that these guys bring to you to better recieve the flattery that your bf gives you through his love and care.
A large number of relationships that are lost due to cheeting are caused by either the man or woman putting themselves in the wrong situauion. Allowing them to be alone with another attractive person, taking the flattery to a new level, flirting to recieve flattery... All of these things just mean that that person is too irresponsible and confused to acutally know what they want and to fight for it.
If you LOVE your BF his flattery should be all you ever need (but of couse you will recieve more, when in which you should respond with something about your awesome boyfriend, thank them, and get out of the situation.) If you love yourself more than him, then youl probably find yourself in a very bad place at some point of time.
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 07:03 PM
I was married first time for 10 years, and now I'm at the eighth of a hundred, I won't leave again and I don't plan to cheat, but the sense of being looked or desired is good for your self esteem and we men have less exposure than women.
I do have SF as a fake country in which I can exploit these feelings and not harm my marriage.
Posted Fri May 08, 2009 12:43 AM
Posted Fri May 08, 2009 05:45 AM
I feel the same way sometimes (I'm a guy btw, not that matters) but it would be too painful to see her with someone else or if they slept with each other after admitting deep feelings between us. Idk:(
Posted Fri May 08, 2009 03:02 PM
i wouldn't actually hook up with anyone other than my bf, but it does feel nice to know that i'm desirable.