Question for women about my wife
Posted Mon May 04, 2009 10:04 PM
Me and my wife are at a little bit of a crossroad. Sex isn't happening as much as i would like and its a little bit of a problem. We're just a year married and we have it about once a week to once every other week. Nothing else in our marriage is wrong, just the sex. We've been 'talking' about it for a while now, but finally broke some ground today.
I told her that not only would i like sex a little more often, but i would like her to do some foreplay to. Before you ask, i give her as much foreplay as she wants. I told her that not only does she never really touch me, the only time she will is if its covered in a condom. She finally admits that it kinda grosses her out, pre-cum and cum. She won't even touch herself unless she's using a vibrator or if she's in the shower.Well, some talking goes by, and then a break, and then she comes back and says she was thinking about it and came to the conclusion that she was kinda jealous of my sexuality, how i can not let things bother me and pretty much do anything.
Now my question is, was any other woman on her like my wife. Not really into sex to much and avoidant of cum or pre-cum or even your own fluid. If so, how did you get over it or get past it or anything. Any help on the subject would deffinitly be appreciated
p.s. As i read over the last line i just wanted to add then i'm not talking about anything like pearl necklaces or facial shots. I mean just the pre-cum from a hand job is enough to make her not want to give me one.
Posted Mon May 04, 2009 10:21 PM
Posted Mon May 04, 2009 11:02 PM
Talking is a big start for someone that is grossed out about even something simple as her own fluids, so you've got to give her credit there. Keep the lines of comunication open and honest. Let her know that her fluids are not gross and that without blame that you would like in time for her to not feel that way about herself and your fluids as well. If she could get past that she will not have to envy your sexuality and she will cum into own.
Posted Tue May 05, 2009 04:43 AM
Posted Tue May 05, 2009 08:15 AM
if she plays around for awhile and sees that precum dont shoot out like cum does maybe it wont freek her out as much...jus take it gnetly and slowly...its the only way for it!!!
Posted Tue May 05, 2009 08:50 AM
Posted Tue May 05, 2009 03:14 PM
Honestly, before marriage we didn't have sex. We fulled around with everything basically but sex, hand jobs, oral and the like. when we first started, it was an about daily to every other day thing. Then after a few months it slowed to about 2 to 3 a week. Then we got married and had sex every day on honeymoon, then about 5 times a week, after a month about 3-4 times a week, after about 2-3 months 2-3 times a week. at around month 6 it started being once a week with spurts of 2-3 times a week. By 1 year is when it became about 1 a week to 1 every 2 weeks.
yea, she knows it doesn't fly out like cum, but just it's texture and all grosses her out. thought of the tissue thing but she still would rather have a condom on it just incase anything slips out.
Yea...me not giving her oral wouldn't really do anything to her, i do it mostly cause i like it lol. If it were her choice, we'd probably not really have sex so holding anything out wouldn't do to much. Plus, hand stimulation works better for her than oral does anyway cause of the firmer pressure.
Posted Wed May 06, 2009 11:01 AM
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 05:30 AM
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 07:33 AM
Talk, talk, talk and maybe go and see a sex counsellor, she might have underlying issues.
I think your posts have been mature and well written, don't pay attention to the members who write crap about your situation or make snide remarks!
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 10:19 AM
Rocket Queen said:
That would be my guess. There's a chance it could be some kind of bodily fluid phobia making her not want to engage in sex as much. This isn't something that will easily go away on your own without some sort of professional medical help. Finding out the root cause of her distaste (bada boom) of cum should help clear up most of your sexual issues.
Rocket Queen said:
Though sometimes their brand of sarcastic humor sends me into fits of guilty giggles. How can something so wrong feel so right?
Posted Thu May 21, 2009 02:33 PM