Getting approached by a younger man...
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 01:18 PM
The story goes like this... I met this person last year in a business situation, not that I worked with him, but sometimes I have to talk to a lot of people from very many different backgrounds. He approached me several times and asked me questions that I responded the best way I could. Nothing out of the ordinary there, and because it was business, he asked for my email address and I gave it to him no questions asked.
Next thing I know, he starts sending me messages of a general nature, and again I responded the best way I could, that's all. Then, he asks if he could chat on MSN, that he needed to make some professional decisions and that he wanted my advice. He mentioned that he didn't know too many people in my line of work and that he wanted to get an insider's view. I thought that was a little odd, but didn't put too much thought into it, so I ended up chatting with him several times.
At some point he started getting personal, and I pretty much freaked out because of his age. I mean, he very straighforwardly told me that he would like to be involved with me; but he said that he totally understood my reaction, and that he would be most happy if I could continue seeing him as a friend. I saw no harm in that, so he offered that maybe we could go and have a coffee to make peace. I accepted and just as he said, he didn't make more advances and life went on as usual. To make the story short, I have been talking to him regularly for the last 8 months, and every other months more or less, he asks the question about getting intimate. It's never gone beyond the question, and he never fusses about it or pushes it any further, so the "friendship" continues, and I admit to feeling very comfortable with his company. Now, he's asked me again, and this time he seems more determined than ever, so I'm feeling a little dazed with the entire situation.
I know I'm not giving too much information here, but I want to keep it that way. Now, the question: Do you think it's okay to accept this offer? Based on his personality alone, I would go for it, but the age thing keeps me at bay.
As usual all your opinions will be very appreciated.
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 01:31 PM
"I only regret what I haven't done, never what I did"
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 01:35 PM
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 01:40 PM
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 01:48 PM
Also, I hope it's not a way for him to get an insider's view, as he said.
*has very little faith in humanity nowadays*
You can always try, but in full concience of what you're both getting into as far as experience in handling life situations goes.
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 01:50 PM
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 02:56 PM
Ted Flirt said:
"I only regret what I haven't done, never what I did"
Ted, I hear you very well on this, and normally I wouldn't be so cautious given the circumstances, but his age freaks me out a bit.
No, he's not involved, and I think his motivations are not on the business side, but rather on the sexual fantasy side. He really wants to get involved with an older woman, and I mean, I could easily sweep aside what he wants, but he's making the point in giving something in return... not sure what he's got in mind, but I could easily come up with a few suggestions, so no problem in that regard besides that age factor.
I'll PM you...
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 06:20 PM
what is the worst scenario? one of you fall in love and get a boot? this is no news land, or what people might think? c'mon fuck off what they think, be happy!
Posted Thu May 07, 2009 07:03 PM
As the old saying goes, "Men propose and women dispose." Good luck.
Posted Fri May 08, 2009 12:43 AM
If you're comfortable enough with him getting so physically close, then there's no reason not to enjoy yourself in my opinion.
Posted Fri May 08, 2009 05:20 AM
I would date him if I got along well with him.
Posted Fri May 08, 2009 10:00 PM
it seems like he really wants to be intimate with you so i'm sure it would be really amazing.
Posted Wed May 13, 2009 04:52 AM
Posted Wed May 13, 2009 06:21 AM
Sex and relationships are supposed to make a person feel good.
If it doesn't make you feel good...
Posted Wed May 13, 2009 10:40 AM
As long as you like each others company...
Go for it...
After all your already at the right age...
Don't mind other say or think...
Posted Thu May 14, 2009 10:39 PM
My bf is younger than me. I am on a aquarium forum and this guy ( bf) at the time just hit me up on aim saying , I am cleaning my friends list on aim ...
Well i never talked to this person so i was like ok ..... He just kept hitting up in the same fashion as what your describing. It was all friend talk only. We chatted online , text, and even emailed for months before I actually met him in flesh. I did not want to have anything to do with him relationship wise because I thought he was too young and was probably immature in person. I was also not looking for a relationship since I broke up with my ex. ( I was talking to him even when i was dating my ex)
When I met him I was head over heels lol and we are now in a serious , he will be my husband.
i know you said that you do not a long term relationship but if a guy is still coming at you and its been 8 months with out sex or advancing imo he may be the man of your dreams. Thats how it turned out with me and my bf.
Posted Thu May 14, 2009 11:37 PM
The age might not be the issue then. I've dated younger gals, and it turned out age wasn't the issue.