getting "friend zoned"
Posted Sun May 10, 2009 01:20 AM
at any rate, she was not interested and told me she could only ever think of me as a friend.
one of my buddies is of the opinion that i waited too long to make a move. i can't see why the timing matters. he thinks that, had i asked her several months earlier, she may have said yes.
does timing really matter for girls? do you really have to make a move sooner rather than later?
Posted Sun May 10, 2009 03:15 AM
It sucks dude but thats the way it usually goes.
Posted Sun May 10, 2009 03:52 PM
Posted Sun May 10, 2009 07:32 PM
girls can lose interest if they aren't shown any attention...
you may be too late... but remember the other option: you might just be too soon.
Posted Sun May 10, 2009 10:31 PM
Posted Mon May 11, 2009 11:00 PM
but what i don't understand is that i finally did tell her i was interested, so shouldn't that make up for the one year of inactivity (it was more like 8 months and i did drop hints, though she says she thought i was kidding)?
what i want to know is, is timing really that important?
like if she liked me then, she would like me now. i just don't see how me waiting can cause her to lose interest. of course its fully possible that she was never interested, in which case its a moot point.
Posted Mon May 11, 2009 11:04 PM
Or she just wasn't interested.
Posted Wed May 13, 2009 01:53 PM
If you let too much time pass, a girl will start to think of you as a brother, and she's never going to do anyting with a guy that she thinks of like a brother. Don't wast time. Don't be a procrastinator. If you wait too long, you will rarely be able to get out of friend zone.
The ways to stay out of the friend zone are as follows.
First of all, from the time you have your first conversation with a woman, you have to set the frame of your interaction and your future ineractions with her. When having a conversation with a woman you have to touch her in a non sexual way from time to time. It shows that you're confident around attractive women. Also it won't feel strange at all to to her when you hold her hand for the first time or kiss her for the first time. She'll already be used to your touch and it'll feel natural.
Secondly if you're attracted to her early on, don't put her on a pedestal. You should tease her about stuff, nothing mean of course, just be playful with her. When you tease a woman in a playful way then you're appealing to her emotions. Women love to laugh. Women are attracted to guys that can make her laugh. And when you tease her that's another great time to put an arm around her. Another good thing to do when making a point during a conversatin is to quickly put a hand on her knee. Just don't leave it there longer than a couple of seconds before the frist time that you've kissed her.
Thirdly, early on you have to tell her that you find her sexy, or hot, or anything to that effect. Basically you have to let her know that you find her attractive. If you don't let her know how you feel about her early on, she might get the idea that you are scared or have little confidence in yourself. Women are never attacted to guys with low confidence. Next time be the man and act like you've been there before.
Posted Fri May 15, 2009 12:29 AM