Fiancee' driving me up a wall...
Posted Tue May 19, 2009 04:25 PM
We got engaged last november and our relationship has been great. Her mom is a boarderline feminist and I am pretty old fassioned. Our first disagreement with the wedding was the save the dates. I was taken back when she told me how she wanted the addresses written. I wanted to see the typical Mr. & Mrs. William Jackson (fake name), but she wanted the full names spelled out because downgrading the womens name to just Mrs. is unfair. I got my way but after arguing for so long I said next time this comes up I am not gonna care. Now its time for the invitations... She is starting it with "Jessica and John Johnson request the honour etc etc" instead of the Mr. and Mrs. It's just driving me crazy. Her mom had such an influence about this on her but barely even raised her as a child. Her mom always put work before family and all I do is hear about it and tell her that her family wont turn out the way her parents family did.
Am I just being messed up or what? Her parents are so fake around me I am ready to loose it. I can only imagine what they say when I am not around....
P.S. - I am not trying to be all male dominate but every time I look up ediquit it comes up as me being right.
Posted Tue May 19, 2009 04:48 PM
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Posted Tue May 19, 2009 05:35 PM
The bride and groom only have to look cute and cheery and stay up all night to have sex after a long long day of stress and tight shoes.
Weddings are for mothers, to show off to their relatives.
If your fiancee is somebody you are getting along with, just start counting the days to the honeymoon and ignore that stuff.
Do you think the bride really enjoys spending her days examining shades of napkin colours? I don't think she does, but that's what weddings are about.
The whole 'getting married soon" thing is a crash test to see how you'll get along with each other's family at Christmas dinners for life.
Don't start being negative even before the marriage, let the mothers, the grannies and the jealous cousins deal with the ceremony protocol and make sure you'll be on time on the big day and that you won't forget the important things (flowers, rings etc)
Oh, and remember to say ''I do'', lol
Posted Tue May 19, 2009 05:43 PM
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Posted Tue May 19, 2009 06:42 PM
Pick your battles....this is one you should just let her win, bro.
Posted Tue May 19, 2009 06:44 PM
Posted Wed May 20, 2009 01:03 AM
Only if she's putting up some big cash for it; otherwise she gets to sit back with dad and chew on a piece of STFU.
OMG yes, along with all the other mind-numbingly dull things that go into a marriage ceremony.
To the OP - just let her do her thing for this. There will be much bigger fights ahead to save up for.
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