Well it's over...
Posted Mon May 25, 2009 09:40 PM
Posted Tue May 26, 2009 01:09 PM
Sorry to hear about both of you, but relationships do end, it just nice to have closure, and if it was something you did, at least, you're not blind to making the same mistakes again.
Posted Tue May 26, 2009 07:28 PM
I say the best thing to do right now is work on yourself, to feel better. As you may hear a lot, people don't like desperate/needy people, especially right after a breakup. And I can honestly say, I did that out of emotion, and didn't work.
So try to pick yourself up, I know it can be hard right now, and try to go with it. Then maybe later do what attracted her in the first place, the positive upbeat side of you.
Posted Tue May 26, 2009 08:20 PM
maybe you're better off without.
Posted Wed May 27, 2009 05:54 AM
But take heed in the fact that is does get easier over time but it will take time....
Sorry to hear about the leaving keep your head up both of them if you can and get on with LIFE.
LIFE IS TO SHORT!!!
Posted Wed May 27, 2009 04:26 PM
The best thing you can do right now is keep your mind occupied, try everything in the book. Go out and throw the Frisbee, hang out with a bunch of guy friends, go bake, dance, pottery, I don't care what you do just do SOMETHING! Yes... I sadly had to go through this a few months ago and every time i think I'm over her I just find myself back at square one.
Be strong, try to live with it, and keep yourself alive
Posted Thu May 28, 2009 11:29 AM
She told me that about a month ago her love for me started to fade away. She was also burnt out from school and I guess wanted to be single because she finally had freetime and I guess I held her back. She said the little things added up. Me starting to annoy her, me dwelling on things making them dramatic (when I lost my wallet I made kinda a big deal about it but that should be legit), and apparently me not being assertive enough. Here's the thing though. She never told me it bothered her. She told our mutual friend named Becca. Becca got broken up with like me, outta nowhere. The thing that really makes me mad is that she promised me and made me promise her that we would not just break up with each other without any warning at all. Guess what? She completely ignored that and broke up with me. Completely blindsided me.
She said in time feelings may come back but she didn't think so. They won't though because I know her. She doesn't dwell on things and just moves on.
She not once told me about any of her problems. We even went to a movie and ate dinner the week before she left for California and everything seemed perfectly fine.
She did throw out hints that I got annoying which is why I brought her flowers when she got back from the trip the night before she destroyed me. The problems she had with me were very minor and very easy to fix.
I even stayed the night with her and I should have realized it then bc she just layed there while I was the one cuddling with her.
On wednesday I went over calm and collected and said to her that breaks are not good and I don't want to do it. I offered her to take a month away from me and then let me know how she felt, but I told her wednesday that I can't wait a month. I didn't want to stress out that long. I said if you love me we will work through it and I will only see you twice a week instead of twice a day. We can go slow. She said no thank you I think I just want it to be over.
So it is over. I did find this out last night and it made me feel SO MUCH BETTER. Becca talked to me when I called her. She told me that 2 weeks ago they went to their friends 22nd birthday party in downtown, they went to a club and she danced with a guy. Not grinding, but just danced hardcore.
She told Becca "don't tell John." That makes me so angry and it just led me to realize something. I AM BETTER THAN HER.
She had sex with 3 guys before me. 2 were one time deals at a party and one was her bf who she admitted was just for the sex cause that's really all both wanted.
This leads me to believe she's gonna go right back to the same scumbags and when that stage is over, she will regret breaking up with a FAITHFUL, LOVING, CARING boyfriend.
This sums it up perfectly. I always told her she was the best gf ever. I put her on a pedestal. I had trouble getting over her because I thought she was better than me, but she IS NOT!!! That right there is starting to make me feel a little better.
She never told me about that incident and I think that was her problem. If she does get a good bf like me again, she will ruin that like she did with me. It's her loss and though she doesn't care(trust me she is VERY independent and doesn't dwell on things). I just don't understand how she can wake up every morning and not want me back when a picture of us right next to her bed along with the flowers I got her.
Posted Thu May 28, 2009 12:33 PM
So, what about becca? You could use a good rebound huh? I wouldn't suggest putting a GF on a pedestal until your married. Love and respect, yes.