I can't orgasm/fiance can't last more than 60 sec - HELP!
Posted Wed May 27, 2009 12:51 AM
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Posted Wed May 27, 2009 01:25 AM
Posted Wed May 27, 2009 03:22 AM
He comes really fast huh? You could look at the positive, if he comes that fast, you must feel really good!
Posted Wed May 27, 2009 09:46 AM
And don't put any pressure on yourselves. That is a great way to kill the *mood*
Boy I hope this helps? Maybe a little?
Get a fuckin Jackrabbit vibrating dildo and have him use it on you..that way you get more of what you need before he even starts. Plus I have issues orgasming too but that damn vibrator gets me in like a minute! You just need to build up the confidence to tell him thats what you want! Chances are, he'll probably be just as into the idea if not MORE than you!
Posted Wed May 27, 2009 09:57 AM
he sounds like a selfish lover....
my ex could get off in like 20 seconds...if he wanted to, but he would make himself last longer so i could enjoy it. men can control it....unless he has some kind of problem. in that case he needs to tell you so you guys can work through it together
if he does have a problem where he cant last very long then have you guys tried oral or fingering? he could take care of you first then it wont matter if he lasts only 10 secs. i know i know...actually sex is ALOT more fun...but if thats the only way to get you off then...thats the only way
good luck. i really hope that hes not a selfish lover but thats what it sounds like to me...
Posted Wed May 27, 2009 12:47 PM
That may be part of the problem. The more excited you get him, the quicker he will cum. He should be doing more playing around with you.
Posted Wed May 27, 2009 02:10 PM
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Posted Sat May 30, 2009 02:21 AM
hmmm... interesting approach... that might just work.....
In my experience though, I've actually found that controlling my breathing is extremely helpful. Watch him next time you guys are fooling around. If you notice that his face is getting really flush or if he is holding his breath try to calm him down. Slow, deep, rhythmic breathing is best. Focusing on breathing will help curb his excitement. I'm assuming after two years together you guys have tried lots of things, but how does slow sex work for you guys?
To help with the orgasm situation - I've got just the trick. Ride him cowgirl using a back and forth motion rather than an up and down motion if that makes sense. Keep yourself sitting up straight though, don't lean forward. Basically you're stimulating the clitoris by rubbing back and forth while also having the "full" feeling because his race car is still revving its engine inside your garage. I've found that it doesn't stimulate my penis much, but it makes my girl go wild. If you try it, suck on his fingers or encourage him to grab your ass or play with your tits while you grind him. It will keep him interested and it will give you that much more stimulation. I would almost guarantee that you could climax within a few minutes using this technique.
Posted Sat May 30, 2009 02:52 AM
The main part is you both working together to get through the problem so asking for helps a good start.
The focus should be on the whole body. Alot of the time, and especially in young and inexperienced men... they think its all about thier cock... once you are wet you are ready....and maintaining a constant boring rhythm.... you two need to just enjoy each others bodies more...
There are some tricks to training him to hold off longer....
-have him use positions that are less stimulating to him
-slow down or stop and have him circle his index finger and thumb around his cock with his thumb pressing on the base of the head (frenulum) BEFORE the point of no return.
Getting you to cum is a whole new bag of tricks but I will say that you need to explore your body and work out what you like so you can guide him.
Each woman is different in what she likes.
I love rubbing my clit during sex. It's good try it...
Posted Sat May 30, 2009 07:04 AM
As for you, honestly i would recommend you try masturbating. Your not going to know what to tell him to do to get you off if you don't exactly know yourself. If your selfconscious about it, do it when he's not home. IF you need to, get a dildo or a vibrator but i would recommend trying with your hands first for the main reason that if you can do it with your hands, so can he. That way your not dependant on toys. And don't think it's dirty or anything like that. Basically every guy in the world does it and the number of women who do it is catching up quickly lol. Besides, for the most part, guys think it's sexy when a girl masturbates. Use that to your advantage if he's like most guys.
Now when having sex, don't think he needs to get you off just by thrusting, cause that won't work for most women. Most need clitoral stimulation. Plus, with him thinking about what he'd doing to you, his mind might be occupied so he might last a little longer.
Finally, especially when you first start working on it, let it be ok if he gets you off during foreplay and then moves on to sex. Atleast then both of you are getting off and it's not one sided. The idea someone had on here about you giving him a blowjob, and then him giving you oral and doing everything manually to get you off, and then moving to sex sounds like a great idea. He should love it cause he gets to cum twice, plus you get to cum, and then maybe the sex session will last a little longer.
hope any of this helps
Posted Sat May 30, 2009 06:25 PM
Posted Sat May 30, 2009 06:43 PM
I wouldn't believe in that...a reputation of being a minute man wouldn't allow you to get much action around a college campus, lol
Posted Sat May 30, 2009 09:15 PM
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Posted Sun May 31, 2009 01:51 AM
Oh and for what it's worth, my wife refuses to touch herself too, so I reach down and rub her clit for her to help her get off. She can occasionally get off without it, but that usually sneaks up on us both. The guarantee, for us, is the clit.