being unhappy means not having sex or what?
Posted Mon Jul 13, 2009 08:09 PM
This guy is a nice guy and I know he takes care of his family and kids, he even does the whole house work, like laundym dishes, cleaning. Well I even find this strange.He never told me that his wife does those things.
We have been talking about our lifes for a while now, but just recently he told me about his lve afair with my gf.
Posted Mon Jul 13, 2009 08:31 PM
Posted Mon Jul 13, 2009 08:54 PM
Posted Mon Jul 13, 2009 09:14 PM
Posted Tue Jul 14, 2009 06:19 PM
I perfectly agree with this, but at the same time not having sex makes the marriage going down the hill. Intimacy is very important, otherwose, a couple is just roommates.
He doesn't want to divorce for financial reasons. No, he didn't tell his wife about it, why would he anyway?
Posted Tue Jul 14, 2009 06:22 PM
You haven't specified whether this is an affair or not, but "unhappy at home" and "she makes me happy" usually imply cheating. If the married man is unhappy with his wife, then he should work on that with her, not look for happiness in another person. If he and his wife agree that it is okay to have relationships with others, then he can pursue his relationship with GF.
He told me that in the past he had to ask her many times to have sex and theye very rarely had, so he turned to another woman.Some guys like sex, but they only do it with someone they like.
""she makes me happy" usually imply cheating"--what do you mean by this?
They met a few times, so I assume you can call it an affair.
Posted Tue Jul 14, 2009 07:41 PM
Posted Tue Jul 14, 2009 08:33 PM
I believe that there are type of cheaters: those that do it all the time because they were born cheaters and don't care who that ceat with. And the 2nd category is the ones who have a reason, such as being unhappy, or not getting what they want from their spouses. Either men or women.
I do not agree with awingers and open marriages, but I di believe in divorce if thinsg don't go well, of course. I also don't see cheating because one is not happy at home as bad as might seem. But at the same time I know that a divorce can run a man's life very badly. I also know that many people don't divorce because of the kids.
And I wonder if this guy is afraid of losing his assets. He was married before.
Posted Tue Jul 14, 2009 09:00 PM
Posted Tue Jul 14, 2009 09:04 PM
Tell your coworker to grow some balls and tell his wife that he is unhappy and that he wants to call it quits. Stop messing with other people wellness/feelings.