Hopes up and then let down
Posted Wed Jul 29, 2009 09:17 AM
Now on Monday she landed in LA and texted me saying she would be in CT later that night so I said great, we chatted for a while and I told her to let me know that she made it home safely. No call that night, I wake up to seeing her posts all over her friends walls on fbook and she happens to be online. I im her saying "hey you're home!" and she replys "hi". I basically asked her questions for 10 minutes because she was replying with short answers. I then said "I really want to see you, it seems like it's been ages," and she said, "yeah I know." I asked when she was free and she said all this week and i said what day would be preferable for me to see her and she replied, "umm.." and "hmm..." and then no answer. I waited an hour for a reply and then said I've got to go, and she said bye. She def read that and basically ignored me. So i took off today's work to see her because today was the day that she wanted, and she wouldn't even answer me.
Then last night she im's me and is asking me if I want to invite someone to her party because none of my friends are there. And then ends up asking if it'd be akward me being there. I told her no seeing as what she said when she was in india. I asked her if she meant it and replied with "i don't know". I then said "it's fine, I won't come on sunday so that you can enjoy your birthday and maybe we can do something the next week, and I'll give you your space so that you can think things over."
No reply after i sent that, she was online for 2 hours and she was talking to others because my friend told me she was talking to her, so she read that and just ignored it and stopped talking to me completely.
I plan on not initiating any more contact with her until she tries, but what should I say to her? I do love her and want her back. Knowing her, she won't contact me again. I plan on sending her a card on her birthday and just call to wish her a happy birthday for politely and short. I am just furious that she would say that she loves me, then ignore me instead of telling me that she made a mistake and doesnt feel that way. It's bad enough that she said she loved me when she doesnt.
Posted Wed Jul 29, 2009 09:50 AM
Posted Wed Jul 29, 2009 01:45 PM
Posted Wed Jul 29, 2009 02:21 PM
Now, do i bring it up the next time I talk to her and ask when I can come down and take it from there or wait for her to bring it up again and act as if she never asked about it until she asks again. I just really would like to see her, it's been 2 months and i would be happy being friends if that were the only option.
Posted Thu Jul 30, 2009 03:45 PM
Posted Thu Jul 30, 2009 10:36 PM
what he said. and make sure she knows its you halting contact, not her. you will feel better about it down the road.
Posted Fri Jul 31, 2009 02:44 AM
You should blow her off from now on, but if you're going to continue to set up dates, then you need to stop being so accommodating. Instead going out of your way for her, tell her it's this time and day otherwise I'm busy. Tell her that the birthday thing sucks, and that you don't bother with flaky people. Stand up for yourself!
But, I think you'd be better off going to collage as a single guy. High school drama is gonna seem really lame compared to a whole campus full of coeds.
Posted Fri Jul 31, 2009 04:12 AM
and college is awesome.
Posted Fri Jul 31, 2009 10:29 AM
anyway, what everyone else said is right. college is going to be great if you are single. so many hotter/nicer girls out there.