How do you forget?
Posted Thu Aug 06, 2009 04:02 PM
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Posted Thu Aug 06, 2009 07:11 PM
I don't think you ever really forget it's still there
what does happen though is it falls to the back and the good times needs to push it there
If as you say you are happy and havi g a great time then allow those thougts to take over little by little you will "forget" (more simply you will not think about it 99% of the time
Posted Thu Aug 06, 2009 09:03 PM
That brings up a few other questions, but you may never be able to get over it completely, so the issue is, will you be able to live with it for the sake of the relationship?
Posted Thu Aug 06, 2009 09:15 PM
Posted Fri Aug 07, 2009 10:13 AM
OK "he loves me more than... fairly intense affair... just a stupid choice... your every man's dream to believe all that crap. And to top it all off you think "it's me with the problem" Lady he's the one who was pounding some other chick and he likely thinks about her tight ass as he's banging yours, thats why he seems" more attracted. He got caught, and you blame yourself, he's laughing all the way to his next "intense affair" The best thing you can do is go bang some hot guy and tell the hubby how your pussy has never been fucked that hard, then kick his sorry ass out. Get some self esteem along the way!! Did you give him a couple months to end the affair too? I mean you wouldn't want to hurt the other lady's feelings and you certainly wouldn't want to give the hubby withdrawals from her great ass. (that he's likely still banging)
Posted Fri Aug 07, 2009 12:14 PM
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Posted Thu Aug 13, 2009 05:09 PM
This is a personal choice, and no one can tell you what you should do, but I would never be able to stay in your situation.
Posted Thu Aug 13, 2009 05:25 PM
I have to agree with LuvBug on this one.. in my eyes if he truly loved you he wouldnt of been having an affrair of any kind to start with..
Posted Fri Aug 14, 2009 06:59 AM
human's arent perfect. its possible he truly loves you, but for a while had his doubts, or was just not happy.
its very hard to get over. i can't sleep in the spare bedroom at my girlfriend's grandma's house with her ever again because of something i walked in on.. and it hurts, and the thought always lingers. it's been quite a few months, but i'm happy to have moved on. i tried to say "fuck you, i'm done" but after 2 weeks of being separated i knew it wasn't what i wanted.
if he truly loves you, he would never do it AGAIN. people do things for crazy reasons. i can't blame my girlfriend for what she did, well yeah i can but i mean i can understand the motive of being young and wanting to experience different things or people or whatever her bullshit deal was..
i just feel better knowing that we were able to work it out
Posted Sat Aug 15, 2009 01:14 PM
Dont stop reading these posts untill BA posts on this subject. He has been around A LOT and has some pretty non-traditional yet worldly views on such subjects. Being a die hard romantic, I always was hesitant to assimilate his views on said subjects (and more willing to agree with all the women who said "if he loved you he would not have"), but I must say, as time goes on, I keep thinking his views get more and more correct.
BA- what do you have to say to this nice lady??
Posted Sat Aug 15, 2009 09:34 PM
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