Emotional Manipulation or Not?
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 10:54 AM
Here is my situation, I have been talking to a friend of mine more closely this week than usual and I am now on the status genuinly liking this girl. However she has a boyfriend who is in royal engineers army, so he goes away for a while, any she was telling me that she cannot emotionally attach to him because he is always away, so she told me that she was going to break up with him for that reason and for the reason that she has no qualities the same as him or they have nothing in common. She has broke up with him however she told me what he had said saying that he wont talk for a few days because he is upset and other stuff a couple of hours later she had gotten back together with him and the way she described the situation it made me think that she only gotten back together with him because she felt sorry for him. And she confessed to me that she didnt know whether she loved him as a friend or a boyfriend from what I have explained above. I was happy that she was happy however I dont know whether he is just emotinally manipulating her or not. Should I say something or keep away from the situation or just reading the situation to much?
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 11:04 AM
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 11:31 AM
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 12:04 PM
careful not to be her rebound either. let the dust settle if its a relationship to any serious degree.
it WILL fall apart. try to be neutral and give her comforting advice like "tell him how you feel and he should understand" and "you have to decide what will make you happy, nobody else can do that" and "worry about yourself- the only one that matters, and not his feelings"
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 12:23 PM
Posted Thu Aug 27, 2009 05:58 AM
From what you said, in her thoughts it's already over.
It is natural for her boyfriend to use any means he can think of to keep her, emotional manipulation being one of them. That's between him and her, stay away and stay healthy
If she takes too much time thinking about it, though, move on and find yourself another girl.
If she leaves him for you she will hate you and he will use his army education on you
Also, make sure you 're not her rebound fuck for the break up.
Would you make her leave her boyfriend and then watch her going away with a fourth guy in the end?
are you sure she is not a regular cheater and this time it's your turn to cover her boyfriends absense?
Posted Thu Aug 27, 2009 06:45 AM
b a little careful here, she might be enjoying alot of your "attention" on her, as she's not getting any from her bf, as he's always away...i think what she might b doing is trying to form attachments elsewhere, so she can b more firm when the times come to finally break it off with her bf...that doesn't mean she's using you intentionally, from what you describe, i think she just really wants out alot...give it some time..
Posted Thu Aug 27, 2009 07:08 AM
Posted Thu Aug 27, 2009 05:10 PM
If she doesn't leave him when he comes back this time, find another girl, she won't leave him soon enough for you to enjoy it.
Posted Fri Aug 28, 2009 09:11 AM
And juliads his army intelligence is no match for Forensic psychology intelligence haha. Thanks for the advice guys
Posted Fri Aug 28, 2009 11:28 AM