How important do you think sex is for a marriage?
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2009 03:03 PM
The main reason I ask is unfortunately I have always had a problem with delaying ejaculation during sex, a problem I hope to solve in the near future. But, recently I have been very concerned that even if I do find a woman who I truly love and care about and vice versa, my problem in the bedroom will always hold me back from finding a partner. Is P.E. a big enough problem that it can lead to a failed marriage?
Thanks for your input
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2009 03:06 PM
i dont believe in marriage, thats just me tho.
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2009 03:10 PM
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2009 03:23 PM
Thanks wrath... you said "there are too many ways to deal with PE"
What ways were you thinking of?
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2009 04:01 PM
The three can be combined in any way the two partners agree.
You can have marriage without sex just as much as sex without love.
If there is communication and emotional attachment are present, physical representations of love need not be required.
I'm not sure what wrathofjade is referring to for your condition but a tried and true method is practice.
It's an involved process in which you slowly introduce the penis to the vagina, learn the feeling of an orgasm approching and being able to stop or change movements so the orgasm subsides, continuing this process until you can last longer and longer. An oversimplified explanation.
Another method to use in conjunction with that is while urinating practice control over starting and stopping your stream, the same muscles can be used to hold back orgasm.
Their are desensitzing creams that may help.
It's a whole new century, dude, everyone can have good sex.
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2009 05:07 PM
Yes, I do.
If a marriage fails from not being satisfied in the bedroom, then that's not love...but keep in mind this is just my view. I believe that when 2 people are truly in love with eachother, there couldn't be any issues in the bedroom that would end the marriage.
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2009 05:34 PM
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2009 06:28 PM
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2009 06:40 PM
What ways were you thinking of?
I mean medication or pleasing in other ways such as giving oral pleasure. or as someone else said practice.
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2009 09:15 PM
I have heard part of the problem is caused by masturbation. Many times young men rush the process to get it over with. The fear of being caught, etc. They should be enjoying the feeling and learning to control when ejaculation occurs. If you feel it coming on, just slow down.
If you have sex frequently enough, the problem should go away or be greatly reduced. In the mean time, finish her off with a hand job. Don't appologize. If you have a good relationship, the problem should not affect marriage. It sure didn't affect mine.
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2009 11:50 PM
Posted Sun Sep 06, 2009 05:59 AM
When you have pe, don't give up, stop, excuse yourself wash up a bit with cold water, go back for a second time. Remember, that you are young and your pe will slow down ...so hang in there. It is extremely important to satisfy the wife...so do whatever it takes.
Posted Sun Sep 06, 2009 06:18 AM
maybe you'll find someone who takes ages and ages to come and it will all even out ... lol.
Posted Sun Sep 06, 2009 06:21 AM
there are methods involving pulling out and applying pressure around the base of your head with your thumb on the area where you foreskin meets your head.
You can also stop before "the point of no return" and this can be disguised as a change in position which you can use to recover.
You can also move back down to lick her, adding something like "you taste so good i need to eat you some more"
Experimenting with positions which are not as stimulating helps too.
Posted Sun Sep 06, 2009 09:57 AM
Posted Thu Sep 10, 2009 02:56 PM
Posted Thu Sep 10, 2009 03:05 PM
But what if...your wife is too religious and menopause meant the death of your sexlife, without warning and without prior discussion? If she never actually told you it would be that way, but she knew it all along?
Or what if she just wanted a kid and a leather sofa and when she got them, she found a reason to get pissed with you and she never had sex ever again, but you still live together because you co-own a small business?
Or what if she was a fanatic lesbian but needed to marry for passports etc (yup, it still happens) and you had no idea before you said your vows and validated the marriage certificate with a first (and last) night?
Horror stories? Just look around you.
Same goes for husbands.
I am conservative with divorce, cheating etc, but as I say, it takes two to tango.
Posted Mon Sep 14, 2009 07:00 PM
Posted Mon Sep 14, 2009 07:14 PM
Marriage is partnership, respect, support, friendship, commitment and other issues that mean love between two people.
Sex is the most intimate expression of this love, so it is very very important, but at some time it can loose some importance, but I think at the last ages only as everyday sexual life has been increased by several facilities available these days.
I wouldn't love my marriage without sex, but I guess one day if we get old enough together it may become a second matter as the bodies may get tired.
I would not believe in a marriage in which one is unsatisfied as for sure this member will look for it elsewhere.
Satisfaction can come from many different ways, needs communication, dedication and mainly grow up with it. When you (I mean the couple) know your limits and feelings it's way easier!