Always striking out
Posted Thu Sep 10, 2009 02:19 AM
I haven't had many girlfriends in my life. 2 in all my years, I'm 23 now. I'm honest, hardworking, go to school, get decent grades, clean cut, dress nice and still for whatever reason can't get a woman to so much as notice my existence no matter what I do. I'm not willing to play the bad guy role as it just wouldn't work for me and is not really who I am. I've been told by a lot of people that I'm a really nice guy but I feel that I'm falling into that trap of being the nice guy who always finishes last.
This has got to end. Being the nice guy has obviously gotten me no where and a change seems necessary if I'm going to have any success with woman at all.
So my question is simple, being a nice guy, how do I make the transition to being less of a nice guy without being a total ass? This seems insane to ask but I really have known nothing else up until this point. Being a yes man has to stop as well if I'm going to get any respect.
Your advice and help is greatly appreciated. Feel like the sand is running out of the hour glass.
Posted Thu Sep 10, 2009 09:23 AM
You do not have to be a bad boy or a complete asshole to get women. I am a woman and i HATE these guys!
Confidence is something they have that most "nice guys" lack. You can FAKE confidence and get away with it. That's what i have to do to attract guys.
I do not get much attention from men. But instead of dwelling on it, i pretend i'm the hottest bitch around... and it seems to work. haha.
Posted Thu Sep 10, 2009 09:31 AM
You do not have to be a bad boy or a complete asshole to get women.
What was said
Posted Thu Sep 10, 2009 10:38 AM
If you look for a girl with the attributes you describe for yourself, she's sure to appreciate the real you.
I admit, if you look in certain types of places where lots of the human mating ritual goes on, it's true that some types are more successful...bad boys or partiers or uber-personalities.
If you want to use your clean nice-guy image to land girls, you may need to try different waters. The standard bar-dating scene favors other types, perhaps.
Posted Thu Sep 10, 2009 10:55 AM
BE FUNNY. Women love a guy who can make them laugh. You don't have to be a full-fledged comedian, just be able to make a witty observation or off-handed compliment.
Don't take yourself so seriously. Relax and they will relax.
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.....at least that's what some ladies have told me.....
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