Girlfriend can't orgasm
Posted Sat Sep 19, 2009 07:42 PM
A friend of mine and I just started dating (I'm a guy). We're both 24 and have been close for half our lives. She's been sexually active for couple years, but never had an orgasm. I know this isn't as uncommon as most guys think, but it's not just that, though i'm sure all of this is related. It's like she's immune to stimulation.. when I'm rubbing her she says she feels nothing. And she "has no g-spot", i know where it should be, but god knows it's not there or it does nothing for her. I'm not a sex god, but she should feel something.. Due to this, it is very hard to get her wet. The only way I can get her wet enough to actually have sex is to kiss and tease the small of her back.
I feel like when we have sex it's just for me, and i hate that.. I want her to enjoy it as much as I do.
Things I guess you should know in order to try to help are.. she's on birth control (not sure what brand), she drinks - probably more than she should, she's been on an anti-depressant for quite some time. She refuses to masturbate and never has, I've goaded her into rubbing herself while we were fooling around but she lost interest fairly quickly. She also won't let me go down on her. i think the fact that she's never orgasmed and has trouble getting wet only stresses her out more and makes it worse. she is a little insecure in the bed which I think is because of this, and again, it just makes it worse. She feels like she's inadequate in bed but she's not, it's like her body is taunting her brain.
We've talked about it a little. I suggested she drink lots of water for a few days and no alcohol and see if that has any effect.
Even though she doesn't show it, I feel like it can't do anything but mess with her head and confidence when we talk about it.
So, any incite to what may be the problem? and also, what should/can I as the boyfreind do?
Posted Sun Sep 20, 2009 03:27 PM
Posted Sun Sep 20, 2009 07:48 PM
from someone who has been there, understand this: if she's not going to masterbate, she's not going to come.
i don't know how many times i've said this to various people, but i believe the tools required for this rather difficult but fabulous lesson to be: complete solitude, a vibrator with a clit stimulator, a tube of lube and determination to succeed.
that said, get her wet by talking dirty
Posted Sun Sep 20, 2009 08:03 PM
Posted Mon Sep 21, 2009 03:25 AM
deres one problem
second one is might be u.
cuz i did diz one chick a day ago and woo
im 6 inch dats not bigg
and well i made her cum in 10 minutes from fuckin lol
i did brake ma back muscles sore sweating like a monkey for an hr
suggestion: brake ma back muscles sore sweating like a monkey for an hr
pound her pussy make it hurt,,,n she will
never has failed me
if not i dunno brotha
Posted Mon Sep 21, 2009 03:27 AM
Posted Mon Sep 21, 2009 10:22 AM
she's on birth control
she drinks - probably more than she should
she's been on an anti-depressant for quite some time.
She refuses to masturbate and never has
Any/all of those can be a problem. Put them all together and it's no wonde she can't orgasm. My wife does not drink and is not on B/C but due to anti-depressants, she not only can't orgasm any more, she doesn't even care about sex.
She should talk to her physician about the meds and B/C. Get that straightened out and she should at least try and masturbate to see what might get her off.
Posted Mon Sep 21, 2009 05:55 PM
and if by some freak of accident it does happen without masturbating after all these years, she's going to be reliant on someone else and the luck of the draw to get her off. frustrating! forever .... boo!!!