I can't get over it for some reason....
Posted Sun Oct 04, 2009 09:01 AM
I was at work and I get a text from her saying she's leaving. I'm heart broken over this. We still talk and say we want to be friends, but it's so hard for me to just do that. I love her and I don't want to turn these divorce papers in....I know she still loves me, but we can't work it out for some reason.
Now the plot thickens......Awhile after she left I started talking more and more to this girl I knew who was also in the military. Long story short I fell in love all over again and just to clear things up. I'm not someone who is infatuated with the idea of being in love. I've only said it to two girls my whole life and you guessed it these are the two. I honestly feel like a failure right now. The second girl was possibly pregnant with my kid, because we were trying to have one. She left and cheated on me(well I guess its not cheating, but she said she was leaving and then started going out with this guy that day.) She called the other day saying she loved me and she knew what she did was horrible and wrong. I took her back.....
All we could do is fight after that, because she hasn't changed her ways at all. I just want to let them both go. I've been sitting in my apartment drinking a lot lately and I don't know what to do.
I don't plan to get back with either of them after this I just want them out of my head and my heart. They were both disloyal to me.... = /
I don't know where to start dating though all I know is military and the girls her are all for running through everyone. I see this girls all the time that I get looks from when I'm out, but I don't have the balls to say anything. Nor do I really have the chance to, because half the time they are to far away or walking as they glance and smile at me. Is anyone else like me or am I just messed up or something.....
Posted Sun Oct 04, 2009 11:36 AM
Posted Sun Oct 04, 2009 12:03 PM
It's been awhile now that I've been single I had this posted somewhere else before. I've been divorced for awhile now and the other girl is out of my head she just turned out to be a b$&@h. My main problem is my ex wife. We are still friends, it's just I can't get that thought out of my head or my heart. I'm thinking now I should probably try and start dating again.
Sorry for the copy and paste. I just needed some advice since no one really gave me any. The bottom part about me not being able to talk to girls that I notice is new though.
So advice on both subjects would be nice from both parties.
Posted Sun Oct 04, 2009 12:26 PM
We all get down sometimes. We are human, and that's part of the way things work.
I also find it distasteful that you are so betrayed by the cheating. This is a personal thing of mine. I've always had the philosophy that honesty is more important than fidelity. One guy I dated confessed to kissing another girl, and I just laughed at him, because he was nervous about telling me, so he was squirming. So, I understand that a lot of people share your feelings in this way, but I just can't relate. Also on this topic, have you ever cheated on a girl? Ever?
As far as getting back in the game, just do it! It doesn't matter if you're not completely comfortable or attracted to the girl. The first few times may be awkward and not serious, but it'll help you get back to the place where you are comfortable and interested.
And for god's sake, think things through before making more bad choices!
(Sorry for being harsh, but it sounds like you need it right now!)
Posted Sun Oct 04, 2009 12:33 PM
And I seem to be having trouble approaching girls when we both notice each other, because they always seem to be moving away when we both look up and catch a eye. Any advice on this.
Posted Sun Oct 04, 2009 12:50 PM
Second, if you are really attracted, don't let that stop you! I'm the type to go after something if i want it.
Posted Sun Oct 04, 2009 01:23 PM