I am So Insecure Please Help Me
Posted Mon Oct 05, 2009 05:18 PM
Firstly I would like to say that this is quite a serious issue in my life.
I am currently in a relationship with a girl who is 19 i am 22.(for 6 months)
She is an amazing girl who i love. I trust her with my soul and never doubt she will cheat on me.
About 3 years ago my father was killed suddenly in a car accident.
Since the accident my life obviously has changed. The one terrible thing that has happened is a feeling that i just dont trust the world , and im scared. For some reason these emotions seem to be evoked through my relationship.
Why is this ??
Secondly , i am so insecure over my gf , if she speaks to another guy i feel bad , she recently made her profile pic on fb of us , about a day ago she said she was going to change it , although i knew this meant nothing , i got a pain in my heart ?? Y IS THIS ??
Is it possible that cos my dad the 1 person i loved with my whole heart suddenly disapeared that i fear this can happen with a nother love ? I dont know ?
I really and truely wanna become more independant I view myself as a good looking man who is usually confident.
FOr some reason or another i feel a level of emotional dependance on this girl , which isnt fair to her.
She is however an amazing gf and we actually have a very good relationship.
Please give me some clarity as i can stop feeeling so insecure and just live mylife for now !!
Posted Mon Oct 05, 2009 05:27 PM
I would be honest with her and sit her down and explain to her that you ddon'tmean to feel this way but you cant help it and maybe then between you both you can start to re-build your life . Just try to relax and enjoy your time with her
Posted Mon Oct 05, 2009 05:35 PM
Posted Mon Oct 05, 2009 05:56 PM
As for the pain we learn to live with that on a day to day basis and we each have to do that our self.
Posted Mon Oct 05, 2009 06:08 PM
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Posted Tue Oct 06, 2009 05:44 AM
wow! that's an incredibly stupid thing to say. you're joking, right adultebuisness with an e? ok, cool ha!
Posted Tue Oct 06, 2009 09:18 PM