Friends with benefits question.
Posted Mon Oct 19, 2009 04:05 PM
Posted Mon Oct 19, 2009 04:36 PM
Posted Mon Oct 19, 2009 05:36 PM
I think depends on the personality type you are and they are as to if it would work.. i know for me i can only handle so long before sex without feelings ceases to actually exist.. but if the sex is great and you both enjoying it i say enjoy it.. great sex is hard to find..
Posted Mon Oct 19, 2009 11:53 PM
After we started talking again, I started to travel that same road but she had changed her mind since then. Now we don't talk anymore.
My advice would be to put things in perspective from the beginning or else someone will start to develop stronger feelings and things may become awkward.
Posted Tue Oct 20, 2009 12:58 AM
Posted Tue Oct 20, 2009 01:10 PM
Posted Tue Oct 20, 2009 07:45 PM
Posted Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:21 PM
Posted Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:56 PM
If I could give you advice it would be to keep communication lines open and make sure that you both understand how each other is feeling about the situation.
Now over a year later we have not hooked up in sometime but remain close friends. However there was a rocky patch in our friendship after we "ended" things.
Posted Fri Mar 05, 2010 02:52 PM
Posted Mon Mar 15, 2010 02:48 PM
Posted Mon Mar 15, 2010 02:53 PM
Posted Tue Mar 16, 2010 04:15 PM
True that. My feelings caught up with me rather quickly.
1) Communication 2) Honesty
I haven't told my "friend with benefits" how i feel, and i probably never will. Don't make the same mistake that i did.
Posted Tue Mar 16, 2010 07:38 PM
All in all, we had a good FWB friendship and we both knew from the outset it was purely about the sex as well as the odd time hanging out with other friends (before getting down to the sex LOL).
Just to throw this out there...my wife had a FWB at the same time we got back together after having dated some 15 years beforehand. Her FWB arrangement was unknown to me and we were out shopping one day and she just had to take me to this one store to try on some shirts. It seemed kind of weird to have to go out of our way to get there, too. As I'm in the changeroom I could hear her giggling and talking to someone. I came out, none the wiser, bought one of the shirts and we left. It was only after we had gotten married that she let it slip and said the guy at the shirt store some 3 years earlier was a fuckfriend of hers and she wanted to show me off to him as a way of telling him he had fucked up by not wanting to get more serious with her.
I wonder if she knows about 5 or 6 of my FB friends are also former FWB?
Posted Sun May 09, 2010 09:08 AM
Posted Mon May 10, 2010 09:25 PM
So....yeah...it depends on both people. If the friendship is a strong one, I think it can last. I think if you go into it with a light heart and if FWB is all you want, then you'll both have fun and enjoy this time of your lives, and know you can look back on it with much tenderness. However, if there are any romantic notions on either side, well, you both have to make that clear up front. And if romance starts creeping in, you have to be open about it. It might end the sex, but save the friendship.
You might also decide that being friends is no longer important, depending on what happens.
It is a real toss of the dice, and with this man I got very lucky. He is a dear friend, one of my dearest, and my husband knows that and is not threatened by it at all. I got lucky.
Posted Mon May 10, 2010 09:25 PM
This post has been edited by alwaysready1957: Mon May 10, 2010 09:25 PM