Friend or girl?
Posted Wed Nov 18, 2009 08:23 PM
I went out and danced with her. We were having a great time. Next thing I know we're kissing. We continue dancing and then we go into a corner so the other people we are with can't see us. We start making out more. Next thing I know my hand is wandering her body up and down. We both agree not to tell anyone what happened and acknowledged that we were not drunk either.
I didn't realize it until a few days later that I was attracted to her. Since she had a boyfriend and continued kissing me I assumed she was attracted to me too. I asked her about and she agree that she was but she had a boyfriend. Since then we've been talking via phone, text, IM, etc. like we are really a couple.
About 3 years ago I found out that my girlfriend at the time cheated on me and we eventually broke up. It effected me a lot, especially mentally. Do I continue talking with this girl that I danced and kissed or do I shun her away a little bit? What do I do about my friend that liked her and still has animosity towards her? I'm not quite sure if there's a breakup in the future between her and the boyfriend. A part of me wants to put the wall that I've had up since I found out my ex-girlfriend cheated on me so I don't get hurt but at the same time kissing her made me feel good and gave me feelings that felt like I'm ready for a girlfriend.
Any advice, suggestions?
Posted Wed Nov 18, 2009 10:06 PM
If she really isn't happy with her boyfriend then she should break it off.
It doesn't sound like your friend really had anything going with her but he still can't let go. That could be a problem.
I would just be friends if she doesn't break up with him.
Have you kissed another girl since you and your ex broke up?
Posted Wed Nov 18, 2009 10:07 PM
Posted Thu Nov 19, 2009 03:32 AM
tons of other girls, dont go after one which he had a crush on and still holds a grudge towards.
Posted Thu Nov 19, 2009 06:27 AM
I agree with you all on my friend. This girl already said if we started dating then my my friendship would be ruined. I told her if I need to venture down that road I'll talk to him about it or something.
Sometimes I think she is just talking to me because she's having issues with her boyfriend and finds something in me to fill the void that is lacking in her current relationship. I know they definitely won't be breaking up soon since they have a cruise planned in January.