Noob' here, dumb questions about the dirty
Posted Sun Jan 15, 2006 02:18 PM
I'm relatively inexperienced in bed. I've only been with 2 chicks, and to be honest, both times, I didn't know what was going on. My first time I let it go before she actually "got into me".. So needless to say I was branded. I do not drink, so neither times I were under the influence of beverages.
She, on the other hand IS quite experienced. She's not a hoe, but she definately knows much more about this than I do. She went through a "bad girl" phase with her ex, which she ended up leaving for me because he was a liar and never treated her like a girl ort' to be. So needless to say, the bird flew to the fresher seed pile.
I am very concerned about our "first time". I want it to be special. I dont want no back seat or 30 minute romp. I want something special. Where we both can take our time, do everything we want to each other, and just, well, take our time in general. She is VERY special to me, and I want her to be happy, but I am afraid with my lack of bed time, and her past, it will be difficult for me to do this. Being less than adequately "blessed" does not help matters any, but she says this does not matter. I know it does. I've watched too much Howard Stern.
I know one can't expect to turn a lump of coal into a diamond in a day, but I would atleast like to impress her. Eventually, I'd like to be the best she's ever had, although this is probably something too much to ask.
So, guys, and gals on the forum, shoot me some stuff "I need to know". Tips, Tricks, Advice, or just anything you thing would help me out, please, please let me know.. Many thanks!!
Posted Sun Jan 15, 2006 03:12 PM
So, I myself am more experienced than my boyfriend and he couldn't really impress me with anything (at least not at the beginning). I think your best strategy at this point is to be an active and motivated learner. And really, don't expect the first time to be spectacular - it's never that great (if she is experienced she already knows that and doesn't expect miracles from you).
Try to get her to tell you as many details as possible about what she likes and doesn't like beforehand, so that you have some direction to head in.
As for a tip that might be useful: I've found that many men have a wrong idea about oral sex - at least from my perspective, don't do it like in the porn movies...don't just stick your tongue out and start licking, rather use your whole mouth and apply a little bit of pressure with the tongue - that does wonders for me!
Posted Sun Jan 15, 2006 05:47 PM
Anyway, making the first time special doesn't just have to do with how long you last, how big you are, or how you just pump away at her. Instead, it has to do with everything else around that--the romance, the affection, the attention to her whole body, the communication, the humor.
Give her as much control as she wants, be open minded, take plenty of time doing things before and after, and remember that this is only the first time--it's just the start of growing in the relationship together.
Posted Sun Jan 15, 2006 09:47 PM
Bottom line : Relax , Savor , Comfortable , and No Rushing ! My best to you in this lil brother , I hope this leaves you starry eyed & walking funny for a week ! LoL ! >:]
Posted Sun Jan 15, 2006 10:03 PM
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