What's going on in her head??
Posted Tue Dec 08, 2009 04:47 PM
Ill try make it short as possible.....
I have known this girl for about 10 months know, been through so much together and always remained close. We have never really argued with each other over something relating to ourselves....its only ever been over another guy or something like that.
The last few months we have been as close as ever, speaking evry day using text and phone calls and got on really well. Always meeting up with each other, and each time was amazing, got on so well and loved being with each other.
The only issue we have had, is that there has always been some other guy involved which has stopped us from being properly together.
Then last month she decided to get together with this other guy properly, out of the blue. I was heartbroken.
Once she had done it though she made it out like she had realised what she had thrown away with me and her, she would tell me everything was perfect between us and that she is mad to throw it all away and she would tell me nearly everyday that all she wanted it to be was me and her.
So for a few weeks i went along with this as she was saying things to make me think that soon, her and this guy would end leaving it free for us to be together as she would often talk about the times we shared together and how she wanted it all back. So this kept me happy and felt like i was just waiting for the day that they ended and i could finally be with her.
We met up secretly during this time which was kind of bad but we had such strong feelings for each other, we couldnt be apart.
So anyway....it got to the point where she needed to make a decision, either me or him.....she still said she wanted it to be me and her, but she said she wasnt strong enough to finish him, so she tried to make him finish her by making him find out about us meeting up.
Once he did, he obviously got angry....but secretly (i know this is bad!) i wanted him to...so he would finish her.
However things went pear-shaped and she felt really bad about it and then decided she had to give him a chance and stay with him basically ending mine and her realtionship completely....losing me and throwing it all away, something she said she never wanted to do as it would hurt so bad.
I continued to talk to her last night, and she was admitting that she was doing the wrong thing and she knew it wasn't good for her. She told me she nearly loves me and told me everything we have together is all she could ever wish for and that i do so much more for her than he does....but still she stays with him. Even after i asked why she is still sticking with him after those things she said...she jus said 'i dont know' and that it will be her own fault in the future when she realises and loses everything.....she admitted all this and just keeps saying she feels she needs to give him a chance and that he doesnt deserve to be finished as hes done nothing wrong.
so i just got angry n decided to leave her to it......she then text me at 3am...saying 'everythings fucked up, im lying in bed holding monkey (a teddy i brought her), i cant sleep, and ive changed my background on my phone to a picture of you, what the hells going on?'.....and then today she told me she meant everything she said about how she feels for me and says she always will do....but stil she is fixed on stayin and trying things with him.
I just dont understand...she has got everything with me, she knows what its like, she knows how amazing it would be, she knows we would fall in love.....but shes choosin to be risky instead and go with something she isnt sure on!
Do you guys have ANY idea what all this means and whats goin on in her head.....and what you think i should do and act now??
Thanks for your time
Posted Tue Dec 08, 2009 05:17 PM
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Posted Tue Dec 15, 2009 03:17 AM
For the sake of your dignity, walk away. Otherwise, you'll be her doormat.
Posted Tue Dec 15, 2009 09:32 AM
Posted Tue Dec 22, 2009 01:31 AM
because, think about it, this guy seems to have come out of the blue. there will be tons more guys like him. and i truly hope you can move on and not be her fallback. you deserve better -- a girl who really wants you, and is not just "comfortable" with you. good luck.