Sex hurts a lot
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 07:21 PM
Also, he was not my first time, so anything related to first time sex can be eliminated.
Thanks for the help.
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 07:30 PM
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 07:33 PM
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 07:35 PM
Well im about 5 2', so yeah I am pretty small . And yes, he is actually very gentle, going in pretty slowly. I'm scared that I might never be ready for this though ...
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 07:40 PM
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 07:52 PM
Makes me worried.
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 07:53 PM
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 08:33 PM
Anyone know any good positions that are good when the guy is big ? Maybe it might help.
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 09:00 PM
At first I thought it had to do with how physically small they were, but I encountered women that were taller and a bit bigger that said I caused them some pain during sex.
Sounds like I'm almost the same size as your boyfriend, and I can tell you that using lube helps a lot. Use some before, and during - when you think you may have used enough - use more. Too much is never enough.
I have to say that having a member of a significant size is sometimes bad, there have been a few girls that I can't even put all of my cock in them, so I end up fucking them with just the first 2/3 of it because it hurts them.
I actually envy guys that are 6" long and still thick.
For nearly all women it is better to be nice and thick than it is to be long - I know that most men would want both, but believe me the grass only seems to be greener on the other side.
Admittedly though, I have taken an extra little bit of pleasure from having a girl tell me that my cock is really huge, too much for them.....it's flattering.
Too bad that at some point it becomes a useless novelty......
Don't worry about it cutie - you're not too small for him, just give it time and go slow with lots of lube, giving your body time to adjust to being stretched open.
Now.....if he suggests anal - then you should be scared.
I've done it with two women in my life, and it took a good long time to get inside......all of the above suggestions apply - only 10 times the amount. Haha....
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 09:17 PM
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 09:39 PM
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 10:08 PM
FOREPLAY!!! You need to have your body so revved up that you're begging to be fucked. Then start slow and let your body get used to him. After that, it'll be easier to take more.
Too big is indeed a problem. It is every bit as bad as too small.
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 10:27 PM
Posted Tue Jan 05, 2010 03:21 AM
I guess anal is out...
This post has been edited by sillyvilian: Tue Jan 05, 2010 03:22 AM
Posted Tue Jan 05, 2010 06:32 AM
Posted Tue Jan 05, 2010 09:17 PM
I don't know what exactly is going on inside them to make it easier to long dick them but.......there is something there....
Posted Tue Jan 05, 2010 10:11 PM
Posted Wed Jan 06, 2010 11:16 AM
I don't think it has to do with just you being small. My first wife was 5'5" and only 82lbs when we met, she was 18. The heaviest she ever got was 108. We were able to have sex with no problems. Mind you that I am only 6" so it's not like I was going real deep into her. When I would finger her I could tell that she was not very deep and when we used toys she never could take a big one.
Since you said that this guy is not your first and you did not talk about it hurting you then I have to assume it's because of his size. You also never mentioned if you used any toys and if they were as large as he is.
So, I would suggest two things...
One, by yourself try a toy that is closer to his size and see if you can get it in. Using plenty of lube and working at your own speed will let you see how much you can take. I know that my wife and I do some anal play with both of us receiving. I found that I could get a dildo in me faster when doing it myself. When we first tried the big strap-on I thought she was going to kill me. Later I tried it myself and was eventually able to get the entire dildo in. After a few times myself I was able to take the entire dildo when my wife had it in her harness.
Go to your gyno and get checked out. The doctor will be able to tell you if it's a size issue or something else. Make sure it's a gynecologist and not just a family doctor. The gyno will be more knowledgeable about the issues and what to look for. Any time there is pain your body is trying to tell you something is up. The doctor would really be the best person to ask. (This is the same advice that someone else posted here on SF just the other day... It's still good advice.)