Basically this girl I had been seeing would never make the jump to a full blown relationship. Her excuse was that she just got out of a very serious one and didn't think she could do that.
It Gave me worries as to her faithfulness/exclusivity because I need that in a relationship to even be attracted to someone. She assured me on many occasions there was no one else, even going so far as to change her phone number a few times during the year because of texts and pics she was getting from other guys.
She had a pretty dark past, having been molested, been a very loose girl in high school and worse in college until she got badly raped. She tried to reform but basically was just in a heavily sexual relationships (5-6 times per day) with her then partner. Having sex in public, bondage etc. was the norm.
All of this was a turn off to me but keep in mind when I first got to know her she did not give this impression at all. When I later learned these things and she said it was behind her is when I got to like her. Partially because I felt like I was helping. Despite warnings from people who knew her I dated her anyways.
Long story short she had been lying the whole time and whenever she needed sexual gratification she had been going back to this guy. Now I'm not all that broken up about losing her. She pretty much used me as a shoulder to cry on to work out her problems and since she was so open sexually the fooling around we did, which I thought was special, meant nothing to her. It was just to keep me interested.
The main thing is it did fuck up my self esteem a bit. Basically my worry is to how other women will feel about my situation. By that I mean to how many women would it be a deal breaker?
I have a minor heart condition so I cant have vigorous, hard sex.
I have ED and while I can get erections they are unreliable and go away at inopportune times. I am able to climax, but sometimes I take an hour or more to finish.
I can have intercourse but without a pill it will only be for a short time before I go limp and have to move onto other things.
I know my way around a woman's body and as long as the girl is into it can give orgasms easily with my fingers or tongue.
I am comfortable with my condition, but obviously will not put up with being made fun of.
Would most women feel like they NEED intercourse? Would you be encouraging me to buy pills (very expensive, $100 for 8 pills)? Would a strong connection/having tons in common excuse my lack of ability? Even with said connection would it feel like settling?
If anyone has had experience with someone who has similar problems let me know.
This post has been edited by kklo: Tue Jan 05, 2010 02:01 PM