My girlfriend thinks it's ok to kiss other boys To break up or not to break up
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2010 09:39 AM
She thinks it's ok to kiss a guy on the lips out of friendship.
I don't agree with this, at all.
On New Year's eve, instead of kissing me first at the strike of midnight, she kissed her gay friend on the lips,
while she was smirking and she told me it was to make me jealous and she was enjoying my jealousy.
She didn't even kiss me after, she kissed all her friends first and then me.
Now I told her to not do this anymore and she agreed but there is another thing I strongly don't agree with and don't want:
I don't want her to stroke fingers with him intimately (she says it's out of friendship and it's normal and it's an in grown habit of her)
with her friends.
She kept doing this with that same fucking guy and instead of being beside me on NewYear's eve,
she hung around her gay friend (yes he's gay) all the time.
Every time she talks to him, she touches herself, she strokes her hair, curls her fingers in it, touches her chest.
She NEVER does this with me.
And she calls me paranoia and crazy that I say that those touching herself signs are subconscious to being attracted to a guy.
The current problem is, I don't want her to touch fingers lightly with her friend(s), it is too intimate for me to watch,
and I find it cheaty.
Ever seen that movie 'Only You (1994)'? Well, when they touch hands there, that's how she touches fingers with her friends,
especially with that gay guy.
Lightly, intimately, softly stroking fingertips.
AND SHE FUCKING CALLS THIS OUT OF FRIENDSHIP?!! MY GOD I AM FUCKING MAD!!!
She says "I can't keep your promise of not doing this, it's too normal and natural for me, even if I said yes, I couldn't keep it in the long run
because it wouldn't be being myself and my friends would be mad at me for not doing it since they expect me to do those things".
Great. I got a fucking hippie girlfriend.
THAT STUPID BITCH!!!!!!!
I told her if she can't keep with this promise, I will break up with her.
It hurts me too much watching her doing that stuff with her friends and I don't want her to do it.
If I see her doing this again I will beat up her friends.
I am too furious and insecure to decide whether or not to break up with her over this,
because she left me the decision to make.
I'm too nervous and angry to judge..
Help me please..
Any rational, objective thinking mind out there..
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2010 10:01 AM
Of course, I cannot tell you what to do, but I wouldn't put up with anything or anyone that hurts my feelings on purpose. I would possibly admit that I have feelings for the person, but I will throw the ball on her side of the court. I'd say, tell her you have feelings for her, but that you cannot put up with her behaviour, tell her that you feel she doesn't respect you as a man and that for that reason you can no longer be with her, but that if she decides to stop that behaviour, you'd be more than happy to continue the relationship. Now, you have to carry through and be prepared to break up with her and have no contact at all. Sorry, these things are never easy...
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2010 10:24 AM
I just got off the phone with her and she fucking refuses to stop the finger touching/selftouching with her friends.
She has no respect.. she thinks my ideas are ridiculous..
Also because all her friends say it's ridiculous and all that touching is normal..
I guess I have one decision left to make................................................
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2010 10:46 AM
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2010 10:55 AM
This post has been edited by wrathofjade: Thu Jan 07, 2010 10:56 AM
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2010 12:38 PM
This post has been edited by B A: Thu Jan 07, 2010 12:38 PM
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2010 03:47 PM
I agree with Wrath and BA... break up. It sounds like a lot of madness.
IMO, you need to figure out what you believe and what you want in a relationship. Then go find it. This is clearly not it.
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2010 04:55 PM
I hope I'm not overstepping, but I have the impression that she is pushing your buttons to see how much she can get away with. And maybe because you're not from her culture she thinks that she can get away with more. Bottom line though is that she is reluctant to compromise. It's not like you are asking her to stop hanging out with her friend, but to stop hanging off him.
I know you really care about her and all, but she sounds like she lacks emotional maturity. Also if you want to save yourself a lot of drama, if you do break up, stay away. Trust me. She's in her element, her country, surrounded by her friends and cousins, friends of cousins, etc, etc. That's how they roll here.
Posted Sun Jan 10, 2010 11:38 PM
Stop stroking fingers with my girlfriend!!!
You should leave her fast before she takes the last shred of dignity that you have left. And it's a small one at that.
Posted Tue Feb 02, 2010 10:23 PM
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2010 08:17 AM
I love how the internet gives people the ability to kick everyone's ass, even people they've never seen and know nothing about.
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2010 01:06 PM
You got that right. On TV it looks easy but I've tried it a few times and it's a lot harder job then most think. Better left to professionals.
This post has been edited by B A: Wed Feb 17, 2010 01:09 PM
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2010 03:10 PM
And if you want to give that gay guy something, try this on for size.
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2010 05:31 PM
Posted Sat Feb 20, 2010 12:37 AM
Ive never admitted to having a 10 inch dick, but when i go into a fight, i look for the fastest way to win, especially if i am at a size or number disadvantage. sure, there is a possibility of getting YOUR ass kicked, but you cant go into the situation thinking that. You have to dive in headstrong, and dont dick around. go in, and make your first shot count, dont stand there and "feel" the other person out. thats where you open the door to get dominated. strike FAST, first, and HARD. you do that, and you will surely win more than you lose, even if you cant fight well. One good hit to the face, and the opponent is going down unless they are accustomed to headshots. i will be the first to admit that if i go hit in the lower face/jaw, i'd drop like a ton of bricks unless there was a significant amount of rage boiling in me. for example, my girl kissing another dude.
I learned this from my Grandpa who used to go into bars with his 1 other friend and pick fights with anyone, any size, and any number.
This post has been edited by NB OH-Seven!: Sat Feb 20, 2010 12:38 AM
Posted Sun Feb 21, 2010 07:28 AM
She enjoys yanking your chain even though she knows it's hurting you. There is no good that can come of this. End it now before this situation gets any worse.
What advice would you give a friend if he were going through the same thing?
Posted Tue Apr 20, 2010 07:15 PM
So you will understand if I am a bit harsh about this sort of thing. Some of my bests mates are gay, I am perfectly fine with hugging them, hell sometimes we act like a bit of a gay couple, and I am completely fine with her hugging them as I know they are about as attracted to her as they is a bucket. I mean heres some pics with me with some gay mates.
I'm the blond with my eyes closed. And here me... (the one wearing the tootoo) and another friend.
All I am trying to say in these pictures is that a man or woman can act flirty with someone and not actually mean it. As much as my gay friends probably wish I was.. I am not gay and have no desire to be although I have assured them they will be my first port of call if I switch teams.
And as for the stroking fingers and stuff.... I think she's either doing it to piss you off or she fancies him. How old is he? I new plenty of people in their teens who went through an experimental stage... doesn't mean there gay. Some turned out to be bi or straight. Needless to say kissing anyone else on the lips is messed up. I love my girl to bits, I'm not a ninja warrior/ wrestler but I'm not a weed either, if she kissed another guy on the lips, I would freak. Very few situations would cause me to get violent. I would and could never hit a woman, but I have no issues whatsoever hitting a guy, gay or not.
This post has been edited by Aaron87: Tue Apr 20, 2010 07:25 PM
Posted Wed May 12, 2010 11:06 AM
and nb07 is right, i would have done the same thing. new years is a once-a-year romantic opportunity, and she wants to waste it intentionally pissing u off? f that. and yes, there are 2 steps involved in winning a fight: Step 1. Punch your opponent in the face. Step 2. repeat step 1 as necessary. we just saw a professional, shogun rua, do this to the previously 16-0 lyota machida.
Posted Thu May 13, 2010 11:36 AM
Posted Thu May 20, 2010 11:56 PM