Can you become bisexual later, or suppres bisexuality?
Posted Thu Feb 04, 2010 09:57 PM
I once joked that bisexuality would be cool. Then I could check out more beautiful people and have more options. Eventually, I decided to be more open towards bisexuality and almost tip-toe my way into the territory. Could I have actually worked towards changing my own sexuality?
I'm sympathetic to nature being a big part of sexuality. However, I wouldn't rule anything out. I think a lot of homosexuals want the issue to be natural because it somehow makes them feel better. To me, nature is irrelevant. Serial killers are natural. They occur because of genetics, in many cases. Yet that doesn't mean what they do is acceptable. Homosexuality is acceptable whether it is chosen or not. If sexually were alterable, to some degree, a person shouldn't be pressured to change their sexuality any more than someone who likes chocolate shouldn't be pressured into eating vanilla.
Thoughts? I always thought that the idea of someone becoming "out" late in life, after marriage, would require (no offense) stupidity. After all, when I started being attracted to women, I'd have had to be an idiot to not realize it. Do people actively suppress their sexuality somehow. This all confuses me greatly. Thankfully, I'm not distraught over it, but I don't like not understanding things.
Posted Sat Feb 06, 2010 11:34 AM
Posted Sun Feb 07, 2010 05:45 PM
You talk a lot about nature, but the fact is that we're also affected by nurture... and then, nature and nurture twist and bend over time, so it's not surprising that people may come to terms with their tendencies later in life and I wouldn't label that of stupid although mismanaged to some extent.
Personally, I've been changing my views about my own sexuality almost every 10 years or so, and although I still "label" myself as straight mostly because I've never had a lesbian experience, I could easily see myself getting sexually involved with another woman. That doesn't mean I've given up on men... not at all... it only means that I don't see myself as 100% heterosexual, and more likely I've never been; but for what is worth, feelings about self sexuality need to be processed before you can come up with the right answer, and that can only happen with time.
Posted Mon Feb 08, 2010 01:37 AM
Posted Tue Feb 09, 2010 03:27 PM
I feel like Lord Byron but with a preference for women.
Sex should be freely available, why is it not on the nhs?
Posted Thu Feb 11, 2010 01:39 AM
Posted Thu Feb 11, 2010 02:31 AM
Roughly a year ago, she revealed to me that she felt that she was Bi-curious because she got exceptionally wet while watching the lesbian scene in Pirates II (sorry if I'm mistaken, I put it on and fell asleep after we had sex). She actually woke up and we talked about it, and for the months that followed we discussed what she would like to do, whether we would bring another woman into our relationship to increase her experience as a one time thing, or if I would sit there and watch her with another woman. We still have yet to come to a decision about what we are going to do, however it seems that a FMF threesome will be our first experience.
Currently, she and I are engaged in a long distance relationship so it adds a great deal of strain on us as we haven't had sex since September and if I don't visit her, it won't be until August. During one of our conversations, I told her that I was curious about experiencing another man. I had basically come to terms that I was Bi-curious and felt that she should know.
For the following weeks we talked about how we could make this experience happen until this week I was browsing Kijiji and found my way to the personals section for some reason or another. One of the ads was a man looking for another man to sit down, watch porn, masturbate and help each other masturbate. I sent my girlfriend the link and she said if I wanted to pursue it, go for it and reply.
After replying my stats, I felt the immediate anxiety that comes with something that you're not familiar with. This was on Monday. Last night we met and I went up to his place and as soon as I walked in his apartment, I knew that this wasn't my thing. However I knew this was also a major turn on for my girlfriend so I tried to go through with it.
We watched porn, he took his cock and began masturbating while I was unable to so much as stir in my pants. This went on for half an hour before he asked me if I wanted to watch him cum and if I wanted to help. I did touch his penis, and it was a weird sensation touching a penis that wasn't mine. However I still couldn't get hard so I told him that I wanted to watch him finish off and then I left afterwards.
After tonight, I'm certain that I'm not Bi-curious. There are certain features of men that I can appreciate, like if a man is able to keep himself in good shape or grooms himself well, but I don't lust for cock or to have them touch mine. I enjoy prostate and anal stimulation but either my girlfriend or I can handle that from now on.
The short answer to my reply? I think it is possible to open yourself more to your sexuality if you're willing to keep an open mind to the options. It just wasn't for me.
Posted Sat Feb 27, 2010 07:15 AM
Have you ever thought about sucking another guys cock?
Posted Sat Feb 27, 2010 11:38 PM
Posted Sun Mar 07, 2010 03:06 PM