i wish she was dirty like you lost
Posted Mon Feb 08, 2010 10:47 AM
I have 3 kids to her and love her dearly, I fantasise about her doing the filthy stuff and matsurbate nearly once a day thinking of her. She is 26 barely 5ft tall and wears size six even after three kids, she looks amazing. I'm 32, around 5ft9", and Im a bit less than 6" in the size department.(she reckons it doesnt matter to her, but it bothers me)
She knew i was quite a sexual person when we first met as i remember bringing a hardcore anal dvd for us and a group of friends to watch and it seemed she was enjoying it with the rest of us. The next day or so she came over to my house and we were browsing through my porno book collection. I thought there was a side to her that was dirty as she'd wear small skirts with gstrings on under, i dont know if she meant it but id catch a glimpse of her pussy nearly every time i looked.
I am very sexual, keen to try new things, if only i had my way.
We had our first child before we really got to know each other and i think that was where our problems started. But we both said that we have to make it work for our childrens sake, and so we are still trying to make it work.
I do know that giving birth has had an affect on her, and how she views this relationship.She is a fantastic mother. It is sad to say this but sometimes i feel jealous because of how much time she puts towards our kids, and that their is no time- not even a thought for her wanting to be with me( i did ask her and her reply was no she didn't). I have always made time to be their for her. Probably 95% of the arguments we have are over sex. Am i thinking of myself too much, or should i just hope that maybe she'll come round. Please i need someone to talk too who has the same thoughts on sex as i do. I need to feel good in myself again.
Thanks for reading.
Posted Mon Feb 08, 2010 11:46 AM
now, it you do all that and it does not go well... then you might need counseling. if that doesn't work... you might need a lawyer.
Posted Mon Feb 08, 2010 02:39 PM
I would suggest trying to understand sex from a woman's point of view.
Women as they get older, especially after having kids, can be not quite so sexual.
They are getting closer to the change of life where their hormones drive them crazy in a tug of war between happy and sad. Also, there is a physical image problem where they feel they are not so quite attractive as they once were. They notice their man looking at younger, more shapely women. And this bothers them big time. Their time seems to be consumed with household duties...stuff that we guys think automatically get done...but take time and bring on fatigue.
It has been said that in a long-time relationship, woman's foreplay leading to sex begins 24 hours before the actual event...which means anything you do GOOD during that time counts double; anything to do BAD counts triple against you. What this means is tie on an apron and help her do stuff around the house. Do dishes, vacuum, dust, and small repairs she has been asking you to do.
Men are visually stimulated, but women look for strength, tenderness, trust and security in their man. Also, as was said, get her out to a movie, walk in the park, trip to the lake. Plan a Summer vacation. Paint a pretty picture of fun in the future. Buy her a loving greeting card for no reason at all. Maybe pretty flowers. Design and print a card off the internet with a special message. Women remember and appreciate this stuff years from now.
Posted Tue Feb 09, 2010 01:40 PM
As far as the way she used to be when you meet, well she was interested in you and maybe curious herself about what sex could be.
Just an idea.. I know when I'm around a new guy that I'm interested, I will dress a lot more sexy then I usually would.. I remember one time a guy telling me he had a thing for Velvet so I went out and bought a short velvet dress just in hopes that he would touch me.. He didn't at first but once I told him it was ok his hands were all over me..
Posted Wed Feb 10, 2010 02:30 PM
+1 ! You're so smart!
Listen to this guy.
Posted Wed Feb 10, 2010 02:41 PM
you need to love her up, get rid of the kids for a day or two and get back to you two instead of mum and dad.
I hope you get it worked out, a partners lack of sex drive is soul destroying