Am I the problem? Confidence crisis
Posted Wed Feb 24, 2010 08:20 PM
It's essentially purely sex.
And my concern is that he has bailed on us meeting twice recently.
Do you guys think that this is due to something I have done?
The first time he said it was down to work commitments but the second time came with no real justification.
I'm not upset about it, just worried that I'm repulsive or something. Haha.
Many thanks x
Posted Wed Feb 24, 2010 08:28 PM
Posted Wed Feb 24, 2010 11:46 PM
Posted Thu Feb 25, 2010 03:04 AM
Posted Thu Feb 25, 2010 03:20 AM
Did she not say she was using him for sex? Sounds fair to me.
Posted Thu Feb 25, 2010 03:29 AM
One other question, when you guys hock up for sex, who arranges it? Does he stay over or leave after the event? If he stays over and does the whole breakfast thing then he'll be more interested interested in you than just the sex. If he leaves as soon as he's 'done' then it is purely a sex thing.
I agree with the others, give him another chance and if you like this guy then make it clear to him that it isn't just for a hook up. If he comes and you guys have a good time, then maybe there's more to it. If however, he fails to attend or is unhappy with the lack of casualness to the situation then you have a problem.
I wouldn't take it personally if it is doomed for failure. More than likely he doesn't know what he has. He obviously enjoys the sex, so there isn't a problem with you or the way you look (and from seeing some of your photos I would agree), therefore the problem must lye with him.
Posted Thu Feb 25, 2010 05:42 AM
Many thanks x
Slow down there! Don't be so hard on yourself.
I do think though that it really does us women a disservice to hear that "guys always want sex" among other exaggerations that tend to permeate the ethers.
I mean, if a woman was showing flaky tendencies on a man like that, I don't think his first conclusion would be that he was repulsive! And he'd probably be out looking for another partner already, lol!
Anyway, bottom line is never doubt yourself based on 1 person being funky. And like the other folks say, just ask the guy if the arrangement is still working out. If not, politely part ways.
Posted Thu Feb 25, 2010 06:52 AM
Posted Thu Feb 25, 2010 01:59 PM
BTW I'm available whenever you want me hehe.
Posted Thu Feb 25, 2010 02:34 PM
Some superrrr answersss. =]
Posted Sat Feb 27, 2010 10:19 PM