Did I get violated?
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 02:58 PM
Well lets get into it. A couple of nights ago we got into another arguement I guess this is what happens when a irish girl and a peurto rican date lol. Later that night we had great make up sex but then things took an odd turn. We were talking dirty and he asked if he put in my ass but then said he wanted to cum in my pussy. Now let me state probably like all women I love anal when I'm in the mood for it and theres plenty of lube. Well I definantly was not in the mood but I wanted to make him happy, also by the way he stated it I thought maybe he just wanted a taste. So maybe I made the mistake by saying just the tip. So he goes and shoves it like half way in w/out lube. I squealed and immediatly grabbed the base of his dick b/c it did not feel good. Let me exlpain the postion we were in too I was like belly down ass up and he was obiviously behind me. But he just put his weight on me and forced it all the way in. And he was being rougher then normal too. Through his barreling in me I was yelping and saying no, I even had my hands on his pelvis trying to push him off. Now I had to be quiet b/c we had friends in the next room. I don't know if he just misunderstood me b/c I kinda yelp anyways when we do anal. But what makes me think otherwise is that he then covered my mouth w/ his hand to muffle me and went harder. After he was done he cuddled up and was sweet to me so I don't think he was angry at me. I just don't know what to think we had lube on the bed side table he could've just grabbed that and he knows better then to try w/ out. Like was this just a misunderstanding or was he taking his frustrations out on me? After it all was over w/ I kind of liked the idea of the situation, even turned on by him having his way w/ me but the actual act was very uncomfortable. Is that wierd? Idk nothing like this has ever happened before.
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 03:12 PM
Wish granted on that first part, huh?
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 03:20 PM
Well yeah if it was the same situation and not in my ass. And if it was just playing...on both parts. I feel like your picking on me lol
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 03:23 PM
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 03:32 PM
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 05:14 PM
Sure fits the definition of rape
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 05:31 PM
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 07:13 PM
I think one thing he did violate for sure was your trust and thats vital in any sexual relationship.
You must speak with him about it and soon, or you'll be stressing next time you are having sex.
hope you're ok my lovely
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 09:34 PM
In my opinion, there's nothing to discuss, he managed his way into you and now he feels he can do whatever he pleases. You, on the other hand, need to understand better what you want and what you like and not let others embed in your head what you think you like. That would be the case of abused women, who in spite of being punched in the face and left with a black eye, still defend the man who mistreats them like if their life depended on it.
Look at your past, and see where you come from... Also, take a good look at your future and imagine where you'd like to be. Then, make a decision on what you need to do to get where you want and not leave things drifting away in the hands of others, especially in the hands of rapists.
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 10:51 PM
Posted Sat Mar 13, 2010 01:59 AM
Abandon the bastard, break his phone, steal his shoes and his wallet and stool him over to the police, or ask a strong guy friend of yours to smash his face in!
I know i get emotional and violent when it comes to dealing with rapist; only thing worst are those atrocious pedophiles... would slay them all on the spot...
This post has been edited by McAllister: Sat Mar 13, 2010 02:03 AM
Posted Sun Mar 14, 2010 03:10 PM
Posted Sun Mar 14, 2010 11:02 PM
No real damage done my ass! He raped you. Don't make excuses for that!
Posted Mon Mar 15, 2010 02:37 PM
Afterward, you liked it.
What all that means is up to you.
Posted Fri Mar 19, 2010 12:54 AM
So first off thank you for all your opinions. I'm glad that this didn't get taken down right away. I'm begining to realize that I need better. My past history b4 this bf was that I dated a guy for a year and half who was a woman hater and would hit me and say nasty things all the time. My current doesn't really hit me anymore (it happened b4 when he was drunk and I forgave it b/c I swung back) but I can tell he thinks less of me. Not till hearing back on this case did I realize I got myself into another bad situation. It just sucks b/c I love him even if that love is wrong. Not to stray from topic but what does IMO mean? My only fear is when I leave him I'll have nobody (and I'm sure thats what he wants me to think) but all my friends (which are guys) are through him and I'll be alone. I'm not trying to make excuses but every time I look for a guy to give me what I need sexually and emotionallly I go in the wrong direction. IDK maybe its genetic my mom dated an abusive asshole ( even had a kid w/ him) b4 she met my dad. How the hell do I find a guy who will love me and treat me the way I want in everyday life and in the bedroom. Errr it's soo frustrating maybe I should just go lesbian never had a girl treat me bad. Goddamn why does life have to be so confusing....
Posted Fri Mar 19, 2010 01:30 AM
Don't fear being alone! It's good to spend time on your own, AND, you WILL meet someone else sooner or later. Good for you for recognizing that your current situation is unhealthy. Drunk or sober, there is NEVER an excuse for a guy to hit his girlfriend... Be strong, believe in yourself, and use the time on your own to get to know yourself...
Good luck and keep us posted!!!
Posted Sun Mar 21, 2010 09:43 PM
I'm afraid this tendency to stick to abusers is not genetic, it's learned... What might be genetic is your needy nature. I don't think a woman should go out there looking for "love", that's a recipe for disaster and an invitation for abusers. In my humble opinion, women should go out in the world and try to do something productive with their lives, then on the way, a decent man might notice you for your qualities and not for the opportunity to take advantage of you. If you need sex, then have sex but don't love men just because they give you sex. Appreciate their consideration and respect if you wish, but never throw yourself in the arms of someone who doesn't give you anything in return, and much less who in treats you like if you owe them something for the privilege of using you... You're not a toilet! So respect yourself first if you want to be respected.
This post has been edited by Olive: Sun Mar 21, 2010 09:44 PM
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