Girl I really like
Posted Sat Mar 11, 2006 12:27 PM
I'm 25 years of age and not very sexually experienced. Practically all of the sex I have had to date has been of the one-night-stand variety when I was usually drunk. I've had sex about 5 times in total I'd say.
A month and a half ago I started dating a girl my age that I really like. She also feels the same way about me and has told me that she has never felt so stongly about a guy so quickly.
I masterbate every morning (I normally wake up with an erection) but when I met her I started to mastermate even more because I didn't want to suffer from premature ejaculation once our first night of sex arrived. Every time I kiss her I start to get an erection (even when I am saying goodbye to her). Our first night of sex was last week. We went for a few drinks but we weren't drunk. I performed oral sex on her and then she put a condom on me. She then went on top but after 10 stokes or so I suddenly lost my erection. This never happend to me before. We then went to sleep and tried again the following morning. This time when she put on the condom I again lost my erection. I then started masterbating in order to regain my erection and then she took over masterbating me. After about 10 minutes I finally came. The orgasm was great.
This week we went to bed together on Tuesday and I performed oral sex on her and she jerked me off. I hadn't masterbated since the previous week (not normal for me - actually I masterbated on Saturday come to think of it) and I came quicker this time. Last night we slept together again. I masterbated that morning. We kissed and touched each other for about an hour before we were both stipped off. I then rubbed my penis against her body - which she liked a lot, and then she got a condom. We then started kissing again and suddenly I lost my erection once more. I then began masterbating her until she came after about 20 minutes or so. She thanked me and then began masterbating me but I wasn't really being arroused by it - I wasn't entirley erect. I wasn't erect at all while I was masterbating her. She then perfored oral sex on me for the first time and I again started loosing my erection. This is really confusing me - I felt nothing when she rubbed her tongue on my penis. We then turned off the lights and kissed some more. She then put her finger in my mouth and I was suddenly aroused when I sucked it. I started laughing about how I could get an erection again so easily and she started masterbating me again and I came a while later.
On Tuesday night she remarked that I was shivering. The fact is I was pretty nervous. I feel very comfortable with her on a personal level but I don't on a sexual level because of my lack of experience I guess. Normally when I have casual sex with a woman I am not worried about anything but fucking the person in question. I dont know them and I therefore don't care that much about them. I also normally pick girls who I find sexy (kinky), rather than beautiful or atractive in the classic sense.
The girl I'm with now is beautiful but I don't find her all that sexy I think. She's a decent down to earth kind of girl, unlike the sluts I'm usually used to. There's a big difference between a beautiful and a sexy women in my mind. Anyway, I think because I care about this girl a lot and because I want to please her sexually as much as possible, I become overwhelmed when she becomes aroused and suddenly stop being aroused myself. I also feel uncomfortable by how hot the whole situation becomes.
Anyway, I feel really bad that we haven't had intercourse yet, but it doesn't seem to bother her at all. I really like this girl and I love being with her. Do any of you guys have any advice for me? If so, I'd really appreciate it.
Posted Sat Mar 11, 2006 07:14 PM
Posted Sat Mar 11, 2006 10:03 PM
Posted Sun Mar 12, 2006 11:40 AM
>> I also feel uncomfortable by how hot the whole situation becomes.
I didn't explain that too well. I mean I become really warm and uncomfortable, but I don't think thats the issue. I've been warm before and that hasn't effected me.
>> your not the only one it happens to if it happens my gf simles and we laugh about it
I can understand it happening from time to time but why does it keep happening to me? I haven't had this problem before and I think the problem is related to the fact that I have feelings for this girl which are more about fondness than about sexyness.
Some times I think I should fantisize about a situation which would really turn me on while the two of us are together, but I think this is being dishonest so I haven't.
Anyway, what do you think I should do to improve my chances of holding an erection the next time we're together?
Posted Sun Mar 12, 2006 07:20 PM