Men who CAN'T masturbate?
Posted Tue Mar 14, 2006 11:10 PM
Posted Tue Mar 14, 2006 11:28 PM
Some guys need lube, or some very specific stimulation, or they need to have no distractions, or to be in a certain position...goodness--they're almost like women.
Being able to masturbate is very handy. Ok, let me rephrase that: Being able to masturbate is very convenient. There are ways he can practice. For example, he can have intercourse until he's very close, then pull out and see if he can finish by masturbating. When he's still inside, he should pay attention to what feels good, and on what part of his penis, so he can continue that stimulation with his hand.
Good luck to him.
Posted Wed Mar 15, 2006 12:05 AM
Posted Wed Mar 15, 2006 12:23 AM
Posted Wed Mar 15, 2006 02:10 AM
I asked him about wet dreams. I read that if men don't come for awhile, their body naturally excretes nocturnal emissions. But he's never noticed any wet stains EVER. (and he's very anal about his bed sheets, have to wipe your feet before getting in it, hehe.) Unless it happens and it's very very little?
I like the idea of using intercourse to sort of "train" him to masturbate.
Posted Wed Mar 15, 2006 04:03 AM
have him try things like: (in each of these, try light vs heavy stroking, slow vs fast, etc.)
2 fingers only, one on top (thumb), one on bottom (3rd) just behind the head.
Same thing near the body end of the shaft.
3 fingers, exactly the same, but use both 2nd and 3rd on the bottom.
4 fingers - several ways to do this - tight grip, moderate/ light grip, lightly holding but open, basically just slapping the underside of the penis with the palm of his hand.
Thumb and forefinger in a motion similar to 'give me money' but on the head of the penis
Underhand grip - this can be surprizingly effective, it's so different - grasp the penis from the top rather than the bottom, using the whole hand. Lots of things to do this way - milk it, pull it, stroke it, jack it, etc.
That should get him started. Now if you have seen him do these things already, then maybe you'll just need to accept it. And be glad it's not the other way around.
Good luck. Let us know how it goes. (Or cums. )
Posted Fri Mar 17, 2006 02:18 PM
Posted Fri Mar 17, 2006 09:00 PM
The different masturbation techniques are fine, but if they're not working, you might want to try some systematic desensitization with him. Have intercourse and then at the point of orgasm, have him pull out and cum on your labia. Next time have him pull out and cum for you somewhere else (anywhere on your body, somewhere tabu, etc. ). Keep working on it, having intercourse and then gradually increasing the time between him pulling out and his orgasms. Maybe give him some oral, masturbate him till he cums on your face or your tits, make it fun and think of new things for him to get excited about. Make it fun.
This will gradually desensitize him to the pressure of having to cum without intercourse, and he might start to relax and enjoy a nice BJ or tit fuck.. or who knows what you two will think up
Posted Sun Mar 19, 2006 02:21 AM
Come to think of it, even if they weren't interested, I was still about to cum! I thought all guys were like that!