ladies-how should a guy approach the vibe topic?
Posted Tue Mar 23, 2010 06:47 PM
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This post has been edited by Abigail: Tue Mar 23, 2010 07:41 PM
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Posted Tue Mar 23, 2010 09:36 PM
"Baby, there's something very special to me that I want to show you. Cuz when you're comfortable with it, I'm going to ask you to insert it up my ass."
Posted Tue Mar 23, 2010 11:45 PM
Sometimes talking about your fantasies and turn-ons will let you introduce something in a general way that doesn't involve asking directly. Then she has a chance to absorb it and maybe decide she likes the idea and offer it herself.
Posted Wed Mar 24, 2010 04:38 PM
If it is her first vibrator, don't buy anything too intimidating. Go for one that's about your size (or go smaller), and I would stay away from dildos/penis-shaped vibrators at first. Just get something relatively plain and simple - something smooth with a bullet-shaped end. Don't break the bank by going for a "luxury" vibrator first (in case she doesn't like it), but try to get a vibrator with multiple settings (patterns and speeds).
Adam&Eve has some decent ones. My first vibrator was a purple one from A&E, and it had five vibration patterns and five speeds. It wasn't expensive at all. I order from A&E all the time, and their shipping methods are discreet and fast. I order online, and I get my order within a week.
I'd also recommend the Hitachi Magic Wand. Pros: It's very powerful and gets me off fast, it plugs into the wall (so no batteries to replace), and it has attachments that allow for penetration (but I haven't bought any of them to try yet). Cons: The Hitachi is a bit more expensive than a generic from A&E, it's larger and bulkier and heavier (and not as easy to hide or transport), and it plugs into the wall (so this is also a con because you can't use it without an accessible outlet).
Along the same line, you could go for a very small "egg" or "bullet" vibrator first (fits in the palm of your hand).
Or maybe try a vibrating cock ring. That's fun for both of you.