Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 05:01 PM
Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 05:05 PM
Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 05:13 PM
Her excuse was, "I just wanted to foreplay didn't really wanna have sex and I was saying no, but then it happen, so that is rape." I ono, judge it how u want to, but remembering this is pissing me off. Why would u let a dude rub his thing on ur clit and then cry rape two weeks after having sex and because your husband found out via blog. Making it even worse she kept texting him and sending him nude pics and kissing him in the hallways.
None of us talk or hang out with her anymore, not even her use to be female associates.
This post has been edited by B3astiie: Sun Apr 04, 2010 05:18 PM
Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 06:17 PM
Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 06:34 PM
a girl that says no is automatically considered as a girl that likes to be hunt down and followed by a guy she likes, its probably the way she likes to get it going...but when she says no while she moves her hair while making room on her neck and showing me the veins and looking at me like she wants me to sink my teeth in them, then that defenatly is a form of foreplay or not ?
Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 06:46 PM
Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 07:02 PM
Are you kidding me...? If I want sex with a man I say it straight up... I don't show skin, I don't bite my lips, I have very long hair and I don't play with it, I don't even wear revealing clothing... Damn, it's all in the talk and I don't lose my time with a man unless he tells me exactly what he wants. I'm afraid I'm too old for this kind of games, but then I'm also a grown woman. What do you expect? That kind of childish play is an absolute turn off for me.
Sorry, play games with little girls at your own risk... If that's what you like, then that's what you like... Don't ask for any validation.
Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 07:04 PM
just because she's shy it doesn't mean she's saying no just because she'd shy, and the only person you can ask about this is her. we cannot have any idea about her motivations or desires.
maybe let her know that you will categorically respect her saying 'no' (i certainly hope this is the case). if she's shy but she wants to pursue things, then she will know that she will need to express her shyness in other ways.
Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 08:54 PM
Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 09:10 PM
teach her that yes means yes.
tell her if she's playing a game find someone else to play a game that risky.
Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 09:15 PM
Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 10:05 PM
100% agreed Easysmiles. My wife was a victim of a date rape a long, long time ago. She and her boyfriend at the time had been an item for a few weeks when he was driving her home from a house party late one night. He stopped to make out with her, which she had no problem with. He had been drinking that evening (in addition to driving...but that's back in the "old days" when everyone was young and stupid at least once) and started getting a little more and more aggressive and she began to get scared. She begged him to stop several times. He wound up holding her by the throat and forcing her to have sex because "she really wanted it" even though she was screaming "no".
To make matters worse, it was her first time.
To this day, whenever I see this piece of shit on the street I just bite my lip and keep going. He's tried adding me to FB (knowing full well my wife and I were an item 3 or 4 months before he did this to her and that I am now married to her) and I've denied his request probably 20 times. I swear, if he ever crosses against a red light my brakes may just "fail" to the point he'd just have a few bruises and broken bones :-).
NO means NO...regardless of the situation! Reading and acting on it any other way just confirms that you are nothing more than a rapist.
Posted Mon Apr 05, 2010 01:08 AM
KEYWORD -> ROLE-PLAY DUHH!!!
Posted Mon Apr 05, 2010 01:38 AM
because you asked whether when someone says "no" can that sometimes mean "yes" ... the answer is "no" and if you answer incorrectly, it is rape; that is why.
Posted Mon Apr 05, 2010 01:44 AM
ummm, i don't see any mention of roleplay in your original post. you say playful, but playful is completely different to roleplay.
Posted Mon Apr 05, 2010 02:04 AM
Posted Mon Apr 05, 2010 02:26 AM
Posted Mon Apr 05, 2010 03:49 AM