This post has been edited by Pound_It: Sat Apr 10, 2010 08:42 PM
Only cum with legs straight?
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Posted Sat Apr 10, 2010 08:58 PM
i think this happen to me sometimes as well, but i didnt pay much attention on this. i feel this happen because i was not relaxed enough. it also depends on how your body works. like me, some days easier to reach orgasm, some days feeling hard to turn on.
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Posted Sun Apr 11, 2010 03:45 AM
I will mention a possibility since you said something about vibrators. I dated a girl once and after a couple of times having sex with her I was starting to wonder as she never came. I've never had a problem bringing women to orgasm so it was a bit of a issue with my pride too I guess. I asked her if she ever masturbated and she said all the time. I asked if I could watch, told her it was a huge turn on for me and besides I was interested in what made her cum. She said ok and hauled out an industrial size vibrator, I mean one of those big 'massage' vibrators - turned it on full power and with both hands pushed it hard directly onto her clit, rubbing violently back and forth. She did that for like 10 minutes and came - it was beautiful watching but I was thinking to myself, damn, that is a huge amount of stimulation no fucking duh. Turns out she did this at least once a day. I had a theory...
She had been goading me into dominating her so I decided to take the bait. I ordered her to stop masturbating and made her give me all her toys and locked them away. I then spent extra time seducing and arousing her but refused to have sex with her. I punished her any time I saw her touching herself and refused to touch her pussy at all except for light teasing. After about a week of this the problem was solved in extremely explosive, wet and pleasant ways to everyone's mutual satisfaction.
I'm not saying your situation is similar, but I do have first hand experience of vibrator overstimulation causing insensitivity to other kinds of stimulation. I also have dated girls that used vibrators regularly and had no problems cumming to penetration, touch or tongue. Everyone is different so in any event don't feel it's a big deal.
Posted Sun Apr 11, 2010 03:52 AM
Find a brass instrument player - we have to learn to do things with our tongues with names like 'double tonguing', 'triple tonguing', 'cross beat tonguing' and the ever popular 'flutter tonguing'. Trombonists have it even harder as _every_ note has to be tongued to counteract the sliding sound....
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Posted Sun Apr 11, 2010 07:24 AM
On another subject, anyone who can lick you for no more than 5 minutes is not a man but a little boy. When i lick my girl, i CAN make her cum in 4-5 minutes, but generally i make it last at least 15-20. If she was a multi-cummer, i guess she could cum 3-4 times before i get sore... But she gets sore after her first orgasm, she's just like that.
Posted Sun Apr 11, 2010 08:04 AM
you could always practice masturbating with your legs in a different position. i practice when i find it hard to come in certain positions, ha it seems pretty weird at first, and i rarely come the first time in a new position, but i find i can manage it the second time and after that it gets better and better.
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Posted Sun Apr 11, 2010 09:07 AM
Well, I suppose one should also take into consideration the length and shape of the tongue, sometimes it is harder to move it for extended periods and sometimes it is simply a matter of preference regarding the sensation of moving one's own tongue. Not all of us are trombonists or brass players as wingsofdesire already mentioned
wingsofdesire, you made an important point here. I always regarded toys as a natural part of a woman's arsenal but desensitization can indeed be an issue with the most extreme cases. I have a vibrator (a small, smooth plastic one) and have successfully used it women and had her come in about 3-5 mins, but I first used the mildest setting and worked my way gradually up. I also used the vibe on myself (on my dick, not in my ass) and I never kept it at highest setting for extended periods to avoid desensitization of my cock. I want it to be as capable of sensing stimulation as possible so I always protect it from reducing sensitivity. However, I also gave an identical vibe to one of my distant acquaintances and she set it to the max immediately and only uses it like that.
This post has been edited by mothx: Sun Apr 11, 2010 09:09 AM
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Posted Sun Apr 11, 2010 10:21 AM
To put the thread back on track: you mentioned you tense your body and have your legs straight too, and so do I, apart from the time when I do the monkey position and my knees are bent but my body is tense nontheless.
It is interesting if the effects of leg position are similar or different for men and women. Would be great if more SF-ers both male and female commented on that.
This post has been edited by mothx: Sun Apr 11, 2010 10:23 AM
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Posted Sun Apr 11, 2010 11:34 AM
I feel I'm too nervous around him, Ive put it aside and just straighten my legs anyways cause, ya'know I deserve getting off too! I just can't wait too long or sex or said act will be over. We do have longer sex sessions at times, but I need clit stimulation! and even if we went for 10 hours (exaggerating lol), i dont wanna rub myself for most of the time, I rather enjoy sex. I don't feel the need to cum everytime, but gah, idk...
Oh, and he has mentioned to me before he loves to go down on girls but he doesn't think he does it well, and that he's not really into the taste...so even if i could come, I'm so self consious the whole time I can't concentrate..sometimes I like I'm keeping him down there and will bring him up cause of it. I go upstairs and wash off everytime before we have sex, cause I mean, us girls after a whole day can get..gross lol. I used to be a total kink and want sex all the time, he would mostly turn me down for sex, now I'm just like, eh, sex or no sex, whatever. Not so much about the tense legs or not cumming, but its more or less I'm tired of wanting it and being shut down, and when we do, making myself cum. He never made me cum, only a vibrator or my own hands. I wish he;d put more into it. I feel like I'm gross to him. He dated (no offense to anyone) but an un- proportionate bigger girl and he says hes disgusted by her now.. I'm short, 105lbs, fit, and usually always somewhat naked or actually naked and trying to do different things sexually. I got him to try anal, and cock rings, different stuff, and he enjoyed it all. After him thinking its dumb I got him to take a nice candlelight bath with me and he enjoyed that too. I feel like I'm venting and straying from the topic, but maybe theres some hidden insight somewhere in here someone can decode...
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