Getting married, but.........
Posted Mon Apr 19, 2010 04:34 PM
Posted Mon Apr 19, 2010 05:59 PM
I have a lot of couples that are friends of mine, and the ones that work the best are the ones where the guy is like blindly committed to her. I wouldn't say it works the other way around though as most women are committed to their men especially if they have children.
It's the man who holds the key to a happy marriage, in my humble opinion. If he's not there to love her and adore her as the woman of his dreams, marrying her would not be too wise. I think that should be the only reason why someone should get married, the rest are just details.
Posted Mon Apr 19, 2010 06:19 PM
Posted Mon Apr 19, 2010 07:10 PM
Yes, that desire is normal. Except that "normal" is a bullshit word. So to put it another way--it's more common than you might think.
Posted Mon Apr 19, 2010 07:22 PM
Posted Mon Apr 19, 2010 07:37 PM
^I agree, and I wouldn't have wanted my fiancee to have proposed unless he felt he was sure about me being The One for him.
^However, I also agree with Abigail, and I believe that what you're feeling is common. So common that there's a name for the feeling you're having. It's called "Cold Feet." It should pass once you get past the "Oh, no, I won't be able to sow my wild oats anymore, and I only get one pussy for the rest of my life" phase and move on to the "I'm so happy to be with someone who knows me and really 'gets' me and understands my needs (plus, I have her pussy all to myself, and no one else can have her!)" phase.
Posted Mon Apr 19, 2010 07:56 PM
Posted Mon Apr 19, 2010 08:05 PM
Posted Mon Apr 19, 2010 09:06 PM
Im married and still have thoughts, I just do not act apon them. Marriage is sacred to me, if I didn't think my wife was the one then I would not have married her. Its never wise to settle for second best, if you feel as though your life is somehow going to be void then I would reccomend rethinking your engagement. Its not fair to you and mostly, not fair to her.
Just do what is best for you, better to find out now than to find out 5-10 years down the road that what you got isn't what you really wanted.
Best of luck my friend.
Posted Thu Apr 22, 2010 09:53 AM
Truest words ever spoke...
I find that when you are engaged or in a serious relationship temptation seems to call a lot more then when you are not in a relationship. In the past year and a half I have been tempted by threesomes, hot older women, and horny teenage (Legal) girls. There is no doubt that I wanted to fuck them but I didn't because I remember my girl who is better then all those other things combined. You just need to weigh things in order of importance you. My girl ranks at the top along with my family so I will not fuck up my relationship for one night stands...
Posted Thu Apr 22, 2010 10:11 AM
Just be open with her and you can both experience lots of things together. Be honest and don't risk of losing her because of a one night-stand. - Don't push her in case she's not open to other experiences but if you really love her you'll be patient.
Best of luck.
Posted Thu Apr 22, 2010 12:21 PM
Posted Wed Apr 28, 2010 09:53 PM
i tried to stop flirtin n everything but i realized that it was even more temptin. now i do flirt sometimes ( ok,a lil more ) but the more i do, the more i realize how much i love my fiance and how lucky i am to have such a good and intelligent guy by my sides ! i even had some guys touchin me but no more desire. god knows i love men but theres nothing like my babys arms !!
so i do believe its normal, the idea of only one partner for the rest of our life can be weird to get used to but so wonderful at the same time !!