Girlfriend has trouble orgasming lately even with clit vibe...
Posted Sun Apr 25, 2010 08:49 AM
Crazy thing is that even though she knows my tongue and fingers will make her cum anyway, she doesn't want this, i have to argue with her (in fact she sort of plays i don't want but likes when i eat her out a bit by force, holding her arms down) to get to lick her for no more than a minute, because she craves penetration. And then we fuck, she keeps quite tight (doing kegels on a semi-regular basis) but during last month over 7 tries she came only 2 times... I offered her to get her off with tongue and finger but she never wants it after i came, even if i say i wouldn't mind.
Hopefully she only has 3 weeks of school left for this session, so then she'll only work a regular 40 hours week; but anyway, does this situation seem familiar to anyone?
Posted Sun Apr 25, 2010 04:18 PM
Give her a few weeks to get herself together. See if things don't improve once she's not being pulled in so many different directions. If your sex life was good before she got so busy with school, work, etc., then I'm sure things will improve once her life returns to normal.
Posted Sun Apr 25, 2010 08:45 PM
Posted Mon Apr 26, 2010 07:07 PM
Honestly, I've never once turned down sex with my guy in the over three-and-a-half years that we've been together.
Of course, I do have a high sex drive - I think it's higher than my guy's is - and I feel like I tend to want sex more than he does. There have been times when HE has turned down sex because he was too tired or just stressed and wasn't in the mood.
It seems like she has an average sex drive but one that's not as high as yours.
There may have been a few times when I was not as energetic in bed as I could've been because I was tired, but I've never just straight turned down sex.
My SO and I did, however, have sex twice this past weekend, and I didn't cum either time, but I wasn't unsatisfied. It felt good, and I was exhausted afterward, but I didn't actually have an orgasm. I guess I never really got that feeling until now.
Posted Mon Apr 26, 2010 07:22 PM
Posted Tue Apr 27, 2010 08:11 PM
Maybe think back to what got your gal excited when you first got together - was it pleasing each other orally, was it sudden and unexpected lovemaking? You know what I mean.
Whatever the case, eleven years is serious commitment. You're serious. The best advice I could give is to just talk about it. I bet good times are just a couple of cuddles and chats away.
Posted Tue Apr 27, 2010 08:35 PM
Posted Thu Apr 29, 2010 07:20 PM
That's the thing, isn't it - just finding the time. Sounds like you've got a good thing going, McA - all the best.
Posted Thu Apr 29, 2010 07:50 PM
Its great to hear you have been together 11 years. Me and my hubby have been together 10 and a half years.
Posted Sat May 01, 2010 07:08 AM
and BTW we had an awesome session of awesomeness 2 nights ago...