virginity my gf n me
Posted Sat May 01, 2010 02:03 AM
Posted Sat May 01, 2010 05:35 AM
Personally, I wouldn´t be able and willing to have asexual relationship, I would probably call it "friendship", then it is OK, but not loving or sexual relationship. It is clear that our sexual orientation plays its decisive role in choosing our partners, so it is equally clear that the importance of sexual satisfaction in relationships shouldn´t be underestimated.
At your age, it would be natural if you could explore all the wonderful aspects of sexual life and probably learnt helpful strategies how to cope with possible problems and how to reach sexual satisfaction as an important part of your life.
I don´t know what the reasons for your sexual abstinence are - whether it is caused by lack of attraction on one or both sides, religious views on sexuality, virginity myths, shyness, inexperience, lack of interest, sexual dysfunctions in one or both partners etc...
Anyway, if this state makes both of you satisfied, then there is no big problem. However, if it suits just one partner and you suffer from lack of sexual intimacy, then this problem should be addressed or should already have been addressed long time ago and if there is no chance to solve the problem, it could be useful to think of searching for a new partner who would have the potential to be sexually compatible with you. It all depends on the reasons for this state and on your priorities in life.
Posted Sat May 01, 2010 10:07 AM
Posted Sat May 01, 2010 11:07 AM
"Nothing" is a strong word. It doesn't mean "very little" or "not as much as I want." So what does happen between you? Do you kiss?
The title of your thread is "Virginity." Are you saying you're both virgins? Is virginity an issue between you and her? Does virginity have a meaning or a purpose for you and her?
Posted Sat May 01, 2010 11:24 AM
we have been together for 4 years times. so much effort and time have been invested. ahahah.. i nvr think of leaving her bcoz of no sex. i m not looking for others as well. i would like to know is there any method to sexual simulate her or etc. =) tatz my intention
Posted Sat May 01, 2010 10:25 PM
Posted Sun May 02, 2010 02:40 AM
Sorry to hear that, but I advise before you both have sex...you both take STD test. It doesn't matter if you're both virgins. The word virgin is thrown around so loosely. Plus,its best to do so, so no one will do the blaming game.
Posted Sun May 02, 2010 03:05 AM
Do you two talk about doing it or lack off doing it..
Shit i couldn't lasst that long.
Posted Mon May 03, 2010 10:32 PM
I agree that I don't think I could go four years without having sex at all. Have the two of you had any oral sex? Have you masturbated in front of each other without touching each other?
This post has been edited by Miss_C.: Mon May 03, 2010 10:33 PM