is this something i should be worried about?
Posted Sat May 08, 2010 06:22 PM
What worries me is one of the guys she is really close to, and still hangs out with all the time. I feel like a dick, but the other day I went through her phone and saw that she was still texting him and was crying over him. Again this was a huge invasion of privacy, but I felt I had to do it just to see. It makes me awkward and uncomfortable, I tried talking to her about it but she dismisses it. I trust her so much, but this is really bothering me. What does everyone think about this? Should I be worried? Any advice?
I would do anything for her, but this just seems a step to far.
Posted Sun May 09, 2010 12:56 PM
If your girl is crying over another man then you need to drop her ass on the curb. Its one thing to look past what each of you have done during your break but its another story if she is still showing feelings for this guy. For me, thats not acceptable. I want my girl to be with me because she wants to be not because she is being rejected by her former lover and treating me like the runner-up. Screw that, I'd refuse to be second fiddle and go find myself a girl who is devoted to me and who is also deserving of the same devotion I show in return.
This post has been edited by Rob2000: Sun May 09, 2010 12:57 PM
Posted Sun May 09, 2010 01:14 PM
Posted Sun May 09, 2010 01:33 PM
It seems like there are several issues in your relationship. You're worried that she's cheating, which is possible if she still has feelings for and/or shows emotions over this guy. If nothing else, she may be having an emotional affair. You snooped through her stuff, which shows that you don't completely trust her - regardless of what you say. And even though it seems like you've tried to bring up the topic for discussion she doesn't seem to want to talk about it, which means that the two of you don't have a strong line of communication.
You say that this issue bothers you and makes you feel uncomfortable, but there's no conversation about how to make things better. These issues can be relationship killers if the problems can't be resolved. I'm worried that your relationship - without solid communication, trust, and honesty - may not last.
I wish you luck. Hopefully things will get better for you.
Posted Sun May 09, 2010 02:08 PM
This post has been edited by Alaric: Sun May 09, 2010 02:08 PM
Posted Mon May 10, 2010 01:04 AM