I confronted her about it and she said she is very sorry, and only wants to be with me. She says she'll prove to me that she can be trustworthy. And says how she was just flirting with him for her own entertainment, because she's insecure, and she wasn't going to do anything with him. I told her I need some space from her to think, and she said she thinks I'm over-reacting and it wasn't really cheating. But to her credit, she called the guy and told him that she didn't mean the things she said to him, and that she can't talk to him anymore.
This is the way I feel: I caught her flirting through texts a few months ago, but never confronted her about it because I liked her so much I guess I just didn't want to face that. I decided that she was just playing around and it wasn't serious. After that we started having serious talks about the boundaries in the relationship, such as what constitutes flirting, what's appropriate, etc. We came to a pretty good agreement about what is allowed and what isn't. When she flirted with this other guy, I feel like she just threw all that out the window, like she didn't even care. I'm also hurt because while she was flirt-texting with him, she was with me at the same time cuddling with me and telling me she loves me.
She says I need to give her a second chance, but I'm really thinking about this, and I do wish things could work out with her, but I just don't feel like I'm gonna be able to trust her again. We've been together for 6 months and she's already doing something like this. A big part of me wants to call it quits to save myself any future heartache, because I deserve to be with a girl who isn't going to disrespect me like this. I'm also worried about the fact she said I'm over-reacting to this. As if it's a regular thing and not a big deal. It makes me think she is okay with this in relationships, which is a deal breaker for me.
But at the same time, in these 6 months, we've been through so much together. A pregnancy, hard emotional times with eachother, we've been very vulnerable around eachother and opened up to eachother very much, so it's hard to just let that go..I mean, we spend virtually everyday together. We are just so invested in eachother's lives...
This post has been edited by JG89: Wed May 19, 2010 01:49 AM