How to deal with this kid...
Posted Tue Jun 01, 2010 10:19 PM
Well, the issue is one of my students is starting to have some problems with many teachers. The problem is not that he's a violent kid or anything, but he is very, I don't know how to say this, but speaking in confidence, horny. I, as keen on sexuality as I am, realized that he is quite revolutioned by all this new feelings and just can't deal with them at all. He really can't, this is far beyond normal. Today I had to ask him in front of the whole class what was he doing to a table, as he was a bit leapt on it watching out the window and swinging his hips on it. he does it all the time even when he's just standing. It sounds funny and for one it can even sound cute as we all been teen and horny, but that's getting him into trouble. The other teachers doesn't seem to realize that he acts that way because of that, they just think he just misbehaves, and the teachers I told this either took it as a joke or gave me weird faces. The other day he was complaining that his nipples were hurting and he's constantly searching for physical contact with other classmates, both male and female, and even, as I said, objects. Even when he's sit he tends to be spreading and closing his legs constantly, and he wears layers of clothes he removes and put back on constantly. His skin seems to be far more erogenous than normal
I realized that I don't know how to talk to him without the chance of getting into any odd troubles. I just try also to not to say anything in the class because I feel I shouldn't be exposing him with his classmates, even less with his female ones. The thing is that I'm seeking a bit of advice from parents or doctors, It may add to the difficulty of the subject the fact that I work on a slum, with other student population I know I could openly speak to his father and give the issue the importance it has.
Well, that's the problem, it might sound a bit ridiculous but I understand that sex can be an important and problematic issue and not many people seem to see that.
Thanks in advance.
Posted Tue Jun 01, 2010 10:36 PM
Posted Wed Jun 02, 2010 12:20 AM
He seems to get aroused way too easily, he wears two layers of clothes and I think he does that to be able to remove them and "get a kick" of it. I've also seen him absorted in grabbing the edge of his shirt, pulling it and move it around, when he's standing against something he starts to rub his back on it too. The nipples thing is weird too, he grabs his chest and sometimes he complains that they hurt, and probably is to hide it because classmates had laughed of him because he had them erected. he can't stay still and when he does he's always doing something to "get a rub", and sometimes he just gropes objects but the weird thing is that he doesn't even seem to be fully aware of what he's doing, today I found him with a blank stare looking outside the window groping a schooldesk and he felt a bit ashamed, the other day he was doing it while talking with some classmates. He also talks screaming a lot and sometimes he gets a bit overexcited on a cathartic way. He's 14 and it's natural for a kid that age to be horny but he's just like that all the time. I never seen anything like that.
On parents, well, yes, it gets a bit difficult to bring up the subject with the ease and seriousness it demands, as this kind of population has a vision of sex and sexuality not crossed by education, sex is a bit of a taboo. My fears are causing the parents to freak out or to overrepress him or come up with "solutions" like taking him to a hooker.
I decided to try to do something because the problems with other teachers are coming up more and more and I fear he get kicked off school because he doesn't know how to deal with his body. I know it might sound a bit crazy, and I as a teacher feel uneasy bringing it up as a subject, even to me, a person who's intrested in sexuality and who's aware of the dimmension of it in life, it took me a couple of months to realize that the problem was coming from that area. Many of the other teachers just take it as some kind of a "conduct problem".
Posted Thu Jun 03, 2010 07:44 AM
Posted Fri Jun 04, 2010 12:44 AM
Well, I talked with him and some other kids yesterday and the subject of football came up and I made the move of encouraging him to go play on an event held on sunday kids were telling me about. I read here that exercise is a good way to deal with hornyness so I thought it could be helpful if he makes some physical activity and releases some energy. There's some level of trust with him so if problems keep coming up I'll do bring the subject directly but I'm not really sure how to aboard the theme, as I'm quite keen on sexuality and I don't know if I could measure my speech to keep it in role. I can't advice him in the same way as I would advice anyone else.
Posted Thu Sep 02, 2010 04:28 PM
Posted Fri Sep 03, 2010 07:22 PM
Posted Mon Sep 13, 2010 08:27 AM
i would like to know, hopefully with out sounding rude.. if this is a main stream school?
without knowing the child, and only hearing what has been described , i would hazard a guess that he could possibly have some type of social impairment, perhaps a mild form of autism?
perhaps as suggested above a meeting with a school counsellor or perhaps suggest a psychologist.
im not awear of what argentina is like and much less their slums, but that seems to be that a psycological assesment could help this kid find a suitable method of learning the right and wrong way to behave in society.
Posted Fri Oct 22, 2010 01:02 PM
This post has been edited by Miss_C.: Fri Oct 22, 2010 01:03 PM