Posted Wed Jun 02, 2010 08:58 PM
Not sure if this is the proper forum but if not feel free to move it!
I am about to go on birth control. I was trying to go on it before the end of my period however my doctor wants me to get a pelvic exam as well so I probably won't start it for another week. My worry is that my boyfriend is coming in a month (we planned it so he will arrive after the end of my next period) about mid july. Would that be too soon to have unprotected sex? I just get really paranoid about this type of stuff.
I would have asked my doctor but its a slightly awkward question so I figured I'd ask you guys first!
Posted Wed Jun 02, 2010 09:36 PM
never fret asking your dr any type of questions like this..trust me anything you can come up with they have heard way worse.
Posted Wed Jun 02, 2010 09:49 PM
It might be embarrassing to talk to him/her about, it could be worse not knowing at all though.
Posted Wed Jun 02, 2010 09:52 PM
Posted Wed Jun 02, 2010 09:56 PM
Posted Thu Jun 03, 2010 04:54 AM
This post has been edited by edopho: Thu Jun 03, 2010 05:03 AM
Posted Thu Jun 03, 2010 05:31 AM
Side note, ALL I wanted for my birthday (next week) was for my girlfriend to be on birth control. I gave her nearly 2 cycles notice that it's all I wanted, but she never went. I put some pretty decent size toys in her pussy, I HIGHLY doubt a doctor's scope hurts bad enough to never go back after 5 years. Oh well, she realized yesterday that she failed me again I've been asking her to get on birth control for two and a half years.
Posted Thu Jun 03, 2010 07:44 AM
Posted Thu Jun 03, 2010 08:07 AM
As for talking to a doctor, really, I don't understand how you can get naked and have sex with someone and not be open enough to talk to your doctor about it. He/she is a professional and will not judge your actions nor disclose the information to any one without your consent unless you've contracted a transmittable disease. So, just be a responsible adult and talk to your doctor about your sexual matters, it'll make your life a lot easier.
Posted Thu Jun 03, 2010 08:08 AM
She was checked out once for an STD exam when she became sexually active at her mother's request, since her mother is herpes +.
It's not so much selfish as just stupid. I think if I was a woman i'd want to get my checkup at least once every year or two. She's had an assortment of issues in the past, being uninsured for a while, not wanting to spend the money, and I suppose I can understand fear. She has said that she'd go for her checkup and discuss BC options, she does have medical issues that we don't want to interfere with, but, well, she's not really a grown-up completely yet. I typically handle our lives and schedule appointments, look up participating doctors and the likes, but I decided that I completely refuse to handle this for her, I want her to show me she can get something done for me. If and when we have a kid, I don't plan on being Mr.mom and dealing with everything, so she can get used to doing this now. Plus it'll show me she cares enough to do something she'd rather not, for me. I'm a patient person.
And i'm actually scared of birth control, for one I can barely last 10 min now, take the condom away and I've got 24 seconds worth of sex in me.
I don't understand why women are so embarrassed.. Some want only women doctors, some want only old men, nobody wants to talk to a doctor about things. They deal with that crap all day, every day, I highly doubt they give a shit what your pussy looks like or if you tell them you want to have amazing unprotected sex with your boyfriend, how long until he can cum in me.
Posted Thu Jun 03, 2010 09:00 AM
P.S. and I hope he prescribed a good method that won't drive you crazy. The last one I was on, after having my daughter, caused me to have a period every 2 weeks. I said screw that! I don't mind another one, and my husband wants to try for a boy now anyway... Now she's a year old and I'm not on it still, since she was like 5 months ive been off...lol it took me 4 years to get her though...so guess I'm not the easiest to get pregnant...however I'd lost 30 lbs when I got preg the 1st time, and currently have 15 lbs to lose before I'm at that weight again, which I'm working on. I think my weight determines my fertility...anyway, I hope the one he gives you affects you better...cause I couldn't tolerate the one I had...once a month is good enough for me....ew ew ew
Posted Thu Jun 03, 2010 09:03 AM
In any case, I should think that the doctor would go through all of that with you when you get your prescription, so maybe you won't have to ask! But don't walk out of there not knowing - a 2 minute conversation is better than an unplanned lifetime responsibility.
Posted Tue Jun 08, 2010 06:46 PM
The pharmacy that I worked at always prints out information packages about the medication that includes many things including items that interfere with the medication, along with when the drug becomes effective, chances of becoming pregnancy with regular use, side effects and so on.
If you really don't want to speak with your doctor and ask these questions you can always speak with a pharmacist about the drugs. They legally must answer your questions and help you figure out how to take prescribed medications appropriately. You don't even have to go into a pharmacy that you got the BC from if you really would like it to be anonymous.
If she's a smaller girl who is being put onto any "light", "low" or "lite" doses or versions of drugs you definitely should wait at least a month or full cycle of the drug before going gloveless.
There are a few BC pills that are prescribed to normal people which can be used as a Plan B but they're not prescribed very often. If she were to be prescribed that medication then you'd be ok.... but its very unlikely that she would be on that one.
Waiting that extra month, may help you out with your endurance as well! Even if it doesn't, once you start going bagless having regular sex without the dome for a long while will result in you getting accustomed to the sensations and eventually your stamina/endurance will increase.
Just FYI, then longer a girl has been on the pill (months to years) the chances of her getting pregnant after missing a pill decreases significantly. Once you decide to try and get pregnant.... after a girl stops using the pill it can take months for the effects of the pill to wear off and for her to physically be able to conceive.
Hope this helps you out.
Wow this was really helpful. I asked my doctor and he said it should take effect immediately but the pharmacist said to wait about a week just to be safe. The packet that the pills came with said to use a backup method such as condoms for the first seven days as well. My boyfriend isn't visiting me for another month anyway so I think I'll be fine by then. As I said before I just get really paranoid about this type of stuff. I think even after a month I might just have him pull out right before anyway.
Thanks for everyone's help!!!!
Posted Tue Jun 08, 2010 06:48 PM