My wife has a boyfriend and I'm OK with it (my first post - sorry for being long winded)
Posted Mon Jun 21, 2010 01:58 PM
Now to the present time…
For some time now I've suspected my wife of having a long distance boyfriend. About a week ago my suspicion was confirmed.
I came home from work one day a little earlier than she expected and when I came in she quickly got up from the chair with a carton and went into the spare room. I thought it might have been a father’s day gift. I didn’t say anything and a day or two later went looking. Needless to say I didn’t find a fathers days gift, instead I found two drawers with wonderful sex toys, vibrators, dildos, gels and a hollow strap-on to be use by him or her. I also found an envelope with two tickets to see Bon Jovi in NY on July 9. The same weekend she told me she going to take care of her sisters kids while they went to a wedding.
I’ve been thinking of a way to let her know that I know. I was going to send her a text message the day she leaves telling her to check her email. My email was going to let her know what I found and how I suspected it for awhile and that I am OK with it.
Since finding the toys and tickets I have been so excited. I find myself laying in bed getting hard and have some of the best cums of my life.
So, what is the best way to tell her I know?
Posted Mon Jun 21, 2010 02:21 PM
Apparently, for some reason, she wants this person to remain a secret from you. Which is odd considering the first guy, you knew about. What's different about this guy that she doesn't want you to know about him? Is she in love with him? Why haven't you two had sex in 2 years?
I don't see how her having a boyfriend is going to help your sex life. Something is way different about this particular person, or it would have went along the same means that the first guy did with you being in the know.
Or, perhaps, it is the same guy and they've taken it to a different level and are in love and don't want you to know about it.
Posted Mon Jun 21, 2010 02:33 PM
Posted Mon Jun 21, 2010 04:56 PM
Posted Fri Jun 25, 2010 10:46 AM
I actually understand what you mean, I also think cheating is hot in a taboo kind of way, dont get me wrong, my girl cheated and ripped my heart out so I understand the pain it causes as well.
However, I also sometimes think of my girl with another guy, the sight of her body moving and twisting and watching how she behaves while another guy drives her wild. Probably instigated by her incident.
Beware though, a relationship must be incredibly strong with incredible trust and bond between you both if you want to carry the relationship on.
Dont let the girl cut you up for something that could very well be no more than a wanking fantasy.
Posted Wed Jul 07, 2010 12:07 PM
You don't have to "get it". I don't say that intending to be snide, or anything like that. It's just that, in the modern world, we have this obsession with needing to understand what people are thinking. If we don't then the inclination is to think that something is wrong, and things that are wrong need to be "fixed".
It's all about mindset, really. Some people just need... something other then monogamy. That doesn't automatically make marriage invalid. There are excellent legal reasons to be married, and there is still an extra dimension of emotional commitment to marriage, even to those who are atheist or "don't believe in marriage". "Open" relationships (a pretty lame term, but whatever) actually do exist, and those in them actually love their partners. It's not something that just anyone can or should try out, though. If you're a monogamist (as the majority are) then that's that, and there's nothing wrong with it. It's the same sort of thing as homosexuality, really.
Posted Sat Jul 10, 2010 02:06 PM