What was in your mind just before you entered into a relationship with your partner
Posted Wed Jun 23, 2010 02:48 PM
Posted Wed Jun 23, 2010 02:50 PM
I wanted regular sex. As for my physical state I was fitter than i am currently i was also a heavy drinking party lush. I wanted to make some changes so i did.
Posted Wed Jun 23, 2010 03:11 PM
And mental state: "If only she would not run away from me.... I hope she will stay with me" (this mantra was running in my head nonstop). After some initial complications my wish came true. I still cannot believe it ...
Posted Thu Jun 24, 2010 04:57 PM
I was in a bad marriage for 22 yrs before I plucked up the courage to finally leave. However, my mental state was very fragile, mainly due to the endless suffering my wife caused me.
Unfortunately, I left my wife for another woman who turned out to be even worse and a blood sucking vampire to boot!!!!
At first she seemed a bundle of fun but before I knew it, she had introduced me to drugs and bled me dry financially. I tried to make a new life for myself but made too many bad decisions and things turned totally pear-shaped.
After 18mths I had to break and run yet again before I completely lost my sanity.
I decided to try Internet dating for the first time, so I joined Match.com and was soon chatting and dating numerous women.
I became a serial dater and though I was getting nowhere fast. However, just when I was on the verge of giving up looking for the right person, I finally met the woman I had been looking for all my life - my current partner.
I can't believe how well suited we are - a perfect match!!
Throughout my ill fated marriage I found out the hard way about what not to look for in a woman as my ex wife seemed to have the most of them! Therefore by the time My marriage was over I pretty much knew exactly what I wanted in a woman.
At first I thought I had set my standards too high and I would never find anyone to come anywhere close to achieving them.
But guess what - not only did my girlfriend match my difficult standards - she completely surpassed them all!!!!
However, even though I'd met the girl of my dreams I nearly blew the whole relationship in the beginning with all my insecurities and mental state of mind.
Thankfully my GF was so understanding and loving that she was able to cope with me. I have now settled down and can look forward to spending the rest of my life in a happy and loving relationship.
My motto is now never to give up or compromise in finding happiness with a partner. They are out there- bloody hard to find mind you - but it's worth it in the end.
Posted Thu Jun 24, 2010 05:19 PM
Posted Thu Jun 24, 2010 05:49 PM
I am so physically ready to start a relationship, but I don't look for it because I am NOT mentally ready... Maybe I'll never be.
Posted Thu Jun 24, 2010 09:33 PM
Posted Fri Jun 25, 2010 12:00 PM
Posted Sun Jun 27, 2010 12:12 AM
Having had a few relationships that all ended on a sour note, and not really being a sexual person to begin with, I met this girl and hit it off because I'm military stationed in Italy (and so is she) and I didn't want to travel Europe alone. I'd never really gone after a casual relationship before, so I thought I'd give it a try. I made sure to let her know I wasn't looking for anything longterm early on so I didn't hurt her.
It turns out jokes on me. Something about us just works on a level I didn't know of before. I think about sleeping with her all day and cuddling with her all night. I love our dinners out and movies in. It's even a possibility something much, much more longterm than I ever imagined I'd go through with could be happening here.