difference b/w girlfriend and one night stand
Posted Wed Jun 23, 2010 11:17 PM
one of the best pieces of advice i have heard is to make a comment in passing...basically making a statement towards a girl and walking away before they can respond....i feel that this is the best way for me to start getting comfortable talking to girls i am interested in but do not know....by doing this i may get a girl interested but cannot ruin it immediately or feel pressure to impress right away....maybe later in the night they will see me and talk to me or i can say something more....
basically what im asking you all is if this is a good strategy...there isnt that much of a discussion to be had but i needed to get this off my chest...im tired of needing to be introduced and walking around a party for the entire night because i dont have anyone to talk to...
thanks for reading
Posted Thu Jun 24, 2010 12:31 AM
thanks for reading
You are obviously not a player, nor are you likely to become one in the next few years. Why don’t you give up trying to score on a chick for sport? It’s not working and it probably never will.
Instead, save your sex for someone special. I’ve scanned some of your other posts. You say you are decent looking and you have a good sense of humour, so let that work for you. The tone of your posts makes me think that you think women are different than men. Try thinking of women as people, not objects. They are from the same species as us, and should be treated accordingly. At a party, would you feel comfortable talking to a guy you just met? Of course you would. You’d find something to talk about, and the conversation would flow from there. Why should it be any different with a woman? You find it different, I feel, because you are trying to impress her. Don’t, be yourself. You’ll either impress her or you won’t. So what? In case you haven’t noticed, there are lots of women around and it’s not likely you’ll be able to impress them all. Get relaxed, be yourself, and give up trying to get her into bed. You’ll make a connection with someone sooner or later, and you’ll feel it when it happens. You’ll be able to form a relationship and together you can explore the possibility of moving it to a sexual relationship. This might look like it will take some time, and yes, it probably will. But in the end you might find a life partner whom you’ll care about and the sex will be just an expression of that caring. And it will be much more rewarding than a one night stand.
Posted Thu Jun 24, 2010 11:26 AM
you do have to put yourself out there if you want to connect with somebody. and if the whole time, you're thinking about rejection and your ego, chances are, you won't get anybody to get interested in you.
Posted Thu Jun 24, 2010 11:53 AM
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