problem getting her off
Posted Tue May 16, 2006 05:13 PM
Posted Tue May 16, 2006 05:15 PM
Gah.. Hard to explain, maybe someone could post a pic to help this poor guy out?
Posted Wed May 17, 2006 05:18 AM
Are you her first? Is she yours? Do you love each other? I suppose a better question there would be do YOU love HER?
I would suggest if the answer to those questions is "yes" that you talk to her instead of us. While it may seem a little embarassing at first, if you love each other I PROMISE with ALL OF MY BEING that it will be SO much more interesting, educational and intimate for you to share all of what you know with each other, and to learn the rest together.
How do you ask your girlfriend "where is your clit"? Well, one way would be "where is your clit?", but another more tactful way might just be to ask her what she likes. Eventually she will point out her clit. Or.. maybe she won't! Some women don't like it being touched and some like it but cannot achieve clitoral climax.
The clit is at the top of the vagina, under a sheath of skin. It varies alot in size from woman to woman. It can be really tiny and completely hidden in the sheath or "hood" I mentioned before, or massive and fully exposed. Some can be the size of a small penis!!!! It has been nicknamed "the man in the boat" by some as it is said to resemble a man sitting at the top of the "boat" (her vagina..imagine a canoe) from the sky. During arousal it may grow in size or not react at all. The clit works in mysterious ways.
What you want to do to it also varies. Some women LOVE to have it nibbled on lightly, some hate this. Some LOVE to have it sucked on, others can't stand it.
Be gentle, don't be afraid to try new things. Let her know they are new to you if you can, and why shouldn't you be able to? Let her know that you want to please her so much that you are willing to overcome your shyness to ask her what she wants, or what you can do for her.
At the same time, be aware that she may not be able to have an orgasm. Some people will tell you women only say that to make you feel better, but it is true for some unfortunate women. MANY women who have been treated successfully for their inability to achieve orgasm were found to have psychological or mental causes.
Alot of people will say she "just needs to relax" and in many many cases this has proven to be true.
Let her know you want to please her, that it is important to you not for your ego, but because you want her to be happy. What better way to help her relax. Talk to her man... really. If she loves you, it can only help
Posted Wed May 17, 2006 08:09 AM
Posted Wed May 17, 2006 08:23 AM
HarleyHunny][U]Talk to her[/U said:
Would my advice be considered "good advice" by your standards? I understand you don't speak for all women, but I like to be well rounded in my advice giving.
Posted Wed May 17, 2006 02:30 PM
Many women cannot orgasm from intercourse because they need to have their clit stimulated, which is difficult to do during sex unless you do it orally beforehand or manually.