[blacksun]

ok there is this lass ive been going out with for a month now and weve just been getting it on for hours when we meet through the week. she was a virgin and lsot it to me ( im privelidged as she's saved it for 22 years).
i went down onher last night and she seemed to be enjoying it but then she said "ian, come up here" so i said "what am i not doing it wrong?" she said "no your not i just want you up here".
obviously at the time im thinking shit either she does jsut wanna cuddle or i was being a bit shit at it. maybe the timing was wrong for when i did it.

i want to know girls opinion on how a guy can give awesome oral to a woman, i want to give her a mind blowing orgasm (thats if you can reach that far giving oral).
also could you tell me where the best parts are to lick and how to lick it the best.

cheers.

This post has been edited by blacksun: Wed Jul 07, 2010 08:56 AM

[conchordtonewyork]

imo, the most important thing is to make sure she knows that you're enjoying it. sometimes one can feel pressure to come, when it can take a while to get into the groove, and the idea that the other person might be finding it a bit of a chore or something they feel like that have to do is a bit of a turn off. soooo, i'd start with letting her know that you really like it. secondly, i'd remind her that it's totally ok for her not to orgasm. thirdly, i'd tell her that you'd really like to see how far you two can go with it though.

on the matter of what to do, i'll confess not to know what the fuck is going on down there when i get oral, but it sure damn feels good! just remember that it's a large erogenous zone and don't forget everything else at the expense of the clitoris. that said, don't forget the clitoris!

[PrincessofHearts]

Ian, ask your new lass what feels good and what doesn't - ask her to give you cues. She's learning too, I expect. Perhaps she was enjoying it and, as Pan suggested, she might not be comfortable yet with the sensations she is having.

TALK!!

As you said

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i want to give her a mind blowing orgasm (thats if you can reach that far giving oral).

First, the fact that you want to do this for her is touching, really. 2nd, you don't need to reach inside of her for the orgasm...I get the idea that you think you need to when you said "thats if you can reach that far giving oral" There is not far to reach...and again as Pan said, there are lots and LOTS of sensitive nerve endings around her lips, near the opening to the vagina, and of course on her clit - the most sensitive of all parts on most women.

Go to webmd . com and check out the female anatomy. Also, if you google it, I'm sure you'll find something on how to give oral sex. Don't pay for books or anything, lol.

I have a couple beautiful descriptions of how a man would give his lover oral sex. This description may be for the more advanced, but I'll share it anyway...I don't think these men would mind.

...and then kiss her down to her stomach, then her belly button, then the top of her clit. I’d gently lick her clit and then take it into my mouth and suck on it… give it a little nibble too. By this time my cock would be rock hard. I put my tongue all the way at the bottom of her pussy and gently lick all the way up to the top of her clit, then do it again only slightly harder, then harder and harder and harder… Each time I would go a little faster too. Finally, I’d open my mouth wide and place it on top of her clit and inhale and hard as I can. It gives the feeling of a soft vacuum on the clit and lips. Then I’d start the entire process all over again. .... After she cums in my mouth, I’d do it all over again…. And again… and again. ...


Another beautiful example....

I lower my face between your legs and begin to explore with my wet, warm tongue. I flick it at your clit before taking it between my lips and sucking on it. Our eyes lock as we look at each other. You begin to squirm in your seat and run your hands through my hair as I begin to fuck you with my tongue. I slide my mouth back up to your clit as I slide a finger deep inside your hot pussy.

[Duchess]

What your girlfriend has done is exactly what I do sometimes when having oral sex.
I orgasm really quickly usually and with oral sex its within minutes sometimes. Now some females get super sensitive there if you are on the clitoris for too long, so sometimes its good to have a rest from it.

Now with a longterm partner, they'll know when to stop with me, but on a new partner, I will always tell them how good it is and will ask them to kiss me, its nicer than saying stop because i'm going to orgasm and don't want that right now.

perhaps thats all it was, don't panic over it and go with Princess on what she's posted! There is much more to the vulva region than just the clitoris.

[Echohawk]

Sounds like a similar problem I have...despite my best, most careful efforts and listening to her tell me what to do and doing it, my wife doesn't get off with me from oral alone. She loves it, mind...but she tells me I just can't do it the same way a woman would (She's bi) and says only women have ever made her cum from oral.

I can still get her off with my hands or cock, or combination of fingers/vibrator/lips and tongue or whatever, but straight-up basic vanilla oral doesn't do it for her from me.

[PrincessofHearts]

Echohawk, on 07 July 2010 - 11:20 AM, said:

Sounds like a similar problem I have...despite my best, most careful efforts and listening to her tell me what to do and doing it, my wife doesn't get off with me from oral alone. She loves it, mind...but she tells me I just can't do it the same way a woman would (She's bi) and says only women have ever made her cum from oral.

I can still get her off with my hands or cock, or combination of fingers/vibrator/lips and tongue or whatever, but straight-up basic vanilla oral doesn't do it for her from me.

Well, echohawk, that is a real bummer. However I'd say you are one of few men who can give your wife an orgasm from penetration. Pat yourself on the back for that one! And I'm sure your best efforts would work on many of us,

[PrincessofHearts]

Ian, I've started a thread...don't know if it will fly but you can check there every occasionally....

http://www.sexforums...o-i-educate-us/

[blacksun]

hey cheers princess n everyone else. been awesome. yer ill check it out. if u want i could update u the news on here in whats going on with the oral . maybe a little to weird...
well yer there could be a lot in the equation to how she acted but i did say "be honest i wont take it personally if i was shit", she did reasure me that it wasnt anything so yer was just a few things that popped up into my head when she said it thats all.
yer i guess ill have to educate myself within the womans area and master it. i just find a womans moan the best thing ever.

[LyricalOne]

The best oral i have received to date, i didn't cum. There was too much going on, too many feelings in my body, and i wasn't in the best state mentally. But it still felt SO good, it doesn't matter that i didn't cum.

You really can't go wrong down there unless you're in need of a shave, IMO.

[blacksun]

LyricalOne, on 08 July 2010 - 06:56 PM, said:

The best oral i have received to date, i didn't cum. There was too much going on, too many feelings in my body, and i wasn't in the best state mentally. But it still felt SO good, it doesn't matter that i didn't cum.

You really can't go wrong down there unless you're in need of a shave, IMO.

ill take your word for it

[severin]

I think that there is some kind of myth that ALL women LOVE receiving oral sex and that it is one of the easiest ways how to satisfy a girl, how to bring her to the 7th level of sexual paradise with mindblowing orgasms etc... Then, when we come across a partner who does not enjoy cunnilingus, we may feel shocked and full of self-doubts and we start to feel like incompetent losers who are unable to do something which everybody else can do with the slightest effort....Or at least this description would match my own experience.
Well, my experiences tend to contradict this widespread idea of girls loving cunnilingus. Some of the women I met simply refused it and never let me try to give them oral... (different reasons).
Others used to react exactly in the way as the original poster described - after a few minutes they wanted me to "come back". Personally, I have never met a woman who would see cunnilingus as the easiest (or at least very reliable) way of reaching orgasms.
I am fully aware of the fact that it is probably caused also by my bad technique or by the fact that I have not discovered the right way how to make this form of stimulation effective in terms of orgasms... The problem is that cunnilingus is probably my favourite sexual activity and I love giving oral sex even more than classical sexual penetrative intercourse (though it is easier for me to give her orgasms through penetrative sex), so I would be more than happy if I could improve something in this area which is very important to me. I have also read all the manuals and "technical" advice but in spite of it, nothing seems to bring desirable results .
I guess that we should not take it too personally, otherwise it can just steal the pleasure and introduce the pressure into our bedrooms. Probably not all the dreams are meant to come true and we should not forget that women are different and some of them do not find this form of stimulation so effective.

[conchordtonewyork]

^^ you know, technique is crucial, but so is mental state of all participants, imo. romance ... !

[blacksun]

ah fuck it she finished me today anyways. but yer sex a holic that is quite true actually. indtead of just living in a world where everyone has to love something is a bit demanding on alot of parts. maybe some ppl just need to work harder in order to achieve things.

[skelator]

ive only gone down on a girl once, but i did end up giving her multiple orgasms from it

the only pointer i can give is to keep swaping from sucking on her clit and licking as deep inside her as you can

to me it tastes good so i had no problem there and she loved it

but the best advice i have is to talk to her about it every girl is different and enjoys different things so talk to her and find out what she likes

hope i helped and best of luck

[curiousinmo]

when my wife got the urge to cum, she didn't know what it was, she made me stop, but after watching a sex education program (which is no longer on the air) and understood what it was, she let me continue, she maybe feeling like she needs to pee, which is the same feeling when they get ready to cum

[Marin80]

Hello all! We are sooo soo crazy whit my wife.We love sex and always make a diffrent things.Yesterday she went to the sexshop and bought many things-Cupid glide lubricant for anal sex(whitout pane),orgasmic gel for her and for me-Vitagra and love power-spray for lonnnngg love
Believe me this things makes love great;);) i bye all that from here: sexshop.bg

[sexy mexy]

Marin80, on 31 July 2010 - 10:40 AM, said:

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Believe me this things makes love great;);) i bye all that from here: sexshop.bg

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This post has been edited by sexy mexy: Thu Aug 05, 2010 03:41 PM

[Flash]

Sometimes you can lick too lightly to make her cum it will just go on feeling good, but never go over the edge and sometimes you are too heavy in licking. You have to learn your partner and exactly what she likes. Ask her and let her guide her.

[Miss_C.]

blacksun, on 07 July 2010 - 04:55 AM, said:

ok there is this lass ive been going out with for a month now and weve just been getting it on for hours when we meet through the week. she was a virgin and lsot it to me ( im privelidged as she's saved it for 22 years).
i went down onher last night and she seemed to be enjoying it but then she said "ian, come up here" so i said "what am i not doing it wrong?" she said "no your not i just want you up here".
obviously at the time im thinking shit either she does jsut wanna cuddle or i was being a bit shit at it. maybe the timing was wrong for when i did it.

i want to know girls opinion on how a guy can give awesome oral to a woman, i want to give her a mind blowing orgasm (thats if you can reach that far giving oral).
also could you tell me where the best parts are to lick and how to lick it the best.

cheers.

blacksun, on 07 July 2010 - 09:56 PM, said:

hey cheers princess n everyone else. been awesome. yer ill check it out. if u want i could update u the news on here in whats going on with the oral . maybe a little to weird...
well yer there could be a lot in the equation to how she acted but i did say "be honest i wont take it personally if i was shit", she did reasure me that it wasnt anything so yer was just a few things that popped up into my head when she said it thats all.
yer i guess ill have to educate myself within the womans area and master it. i just find a womans moan the best thing ever.

blacksun, I definitely agree that you should "educate yourself" when it comes to a woman's anatomy down there. Read a sex book or two - make sure they have pictures/diagrams.

A good one to start with is She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. It does have diagrams that label everything, and it's a pretty decent book. The author's writing at times isn't the best, but the guy definitely knows what he's talking about and gives great advice. It's very educational.

The best advice I can give you is that the clitoris is the #1 female sex organ (NOT the vagina). The clit exists ONLY for pleasure. It literally serves NO other purpose. There are more nerve endings in her clit than there are in a man's whole penis. Treat her clit well (she may like tender and gentle licking/lapping as opposed to flicking) and she'll cum. Kiss/lick/lap/suckle/etc. her clit the way you'd kiss/nibble/lick/suck her lips (the ones on her face!). Make out with her pussy.

You're on the right track.