how to introduce toys?
Posted Thu Jul 29, 2010 12:03 AM
She is a bit timid in the bedroom and seems opposed to toys every time I have brought it up.
I KNOW SHE NEEDS TO GET OFF, BUT WILL NOT LET HERSELF!!
she even complains about my small cock and how she doesn't get off, but tries to assure me "it's okay because I love you".
Does anyone have an idea how to open her up to the idea of adding toys to our sex routine? Any good starter toys?
Posted Thu Jul 29, 2010 08:07 AM
Posted Thu Jul 29, 2010 11:58 PM
than after a while buy some nice G-spot vibrator that is soft (silicone one with a nice vib options, and looks like a penis ) make sure its nothing huge, average size nothing that will scare the crap out of her. don't forget to buy lube of
some sort so later you have an excuse. Take her to dinner one night be romantic and tell her that you have ordered some lube from the internet
and you got a surprise present
with it , and its for her, and its a toy, ask HER if you should throw it away .....or get tipsy one night and see what happens. Most likely she will agree
to keep it , and if she asks you back what you think, tell her you would not mind to experience something like that and plus let her know that you enjoy
playing with her already and you would not mind. come home show it to her and do not rush into using it , let her decide when she wants too have you
use it on her.
Posted Sat Jul 31, 2010 10:55 AM
Posted Tue Aug 10, 2010 11:57 AM
Good call. If she's not open to the idea of sex toys at all, taking her to a sex shop right off the top might scare her or at least make her uncomfortable. Instead, try stimulating her using oral - oral sex is the most effective way to make a woman cum (when done right).
Posted Mon Jan 17, 2011 09:40 PM
I have toys that I thoroughly enjoy but it was my decision to try them out for the first time. I was nervous about what my partner would think and actually hid it from him in the beginning. Once he found out he was supportive and we would then use them together.
If my partner wanted me to use them and I had not decided on this for myself first I may feel a little offended and not want to.
It is a delicate balance when you want something in the bedroom that your partner may not be sure about. Let her know that you love her and that trying something new with her would enhance the wonderful union you already have together.
Communicate with her but reassure her that you love her. It would be ideal to think that you can bring her around to your ideas, but in reality you are not the only person in the relationship and what she does and does not want should matter too.
Maybe you could give her the power for valentines day and tell her she can decide what happens. It may be that you wear something sexy for her. Start small, be gentle and at the end of the day she really does not want to you need to accept and respect this decision.
I wish you luck in your relationship.
Posted Tue Jan 18, 2011 10:10 PM
Posted Fri Jan 21, 2011 09:59 PM