I feel like I have to "announce" when I'm going to cum, but I'm always just supposed to be able to tell when she does. And when I make that announcement, it better just be to let her know that I am going into the condom and this horrible exercise will be over soon.
If I make her cum first, I'm screwed. She'll oblige me but remind me "hurry up it hurts" and when I ask about other methods of finishing me off she always comes up with an excuse as to why she can't. If i ever ask if I can cum on her she gives me a really nasty look and then just shuts down for like 10 seconds. Then she'll say usually just very timidly say "no" or sometimes she'll give me the "I just took a shower." Other times she will say "yeah" but very quiet and say it a bit like a sigh, so I know she doesn't want it, she isn't going to enjoy it, and I'm going to feel like shit afterwords.
If I cum first, I ALWAYS spend whatever time it takes to finish her off with ANY method possible. I finger her, I lick her, I do both, and I even bought a $75 vibrator to use if she so wants it. All she has to do is ask or suggest something and I hop right on it. When I ask for something, I either have to convince her (through argument) that I need it to feel satisfied, or have I have to guilt her into doing it, which doesn't make me feel really good about it.
Am I screwed? Is my sex life over forever? Why is it so hard for my wife to just at least pretend to like having sex and having my man-juice once in a while?
Edit: Also - because my sexual urges have been meeting a wall, they become intense and also a little more taboo... For example: I now have the desire to cum on my wife while she is sleeping (without her knowing of course)... not sure where that desire comes from. I wouldn't dare do it, but it's tempting sometimes. Recently, I've had the desire to surprise her with a cumshot. So basically convince her to suck on me a little before we "get started" (meaning before the condom) and then just pull out and shoot without telling her... So yeah... I'm totally fucked up in the head, but I don't really know what to do anymore.
This post has been edited by cwdark: Thu Jul 29, 2010 08:55 PM