Long Term Relationship, how do you turn your SO on?
Posted Sat Jul 31, 2010 07:42 AM
Posted Sat Jul 31, 2010 08:25 AM
I know my wife and she knows me, this can create scripted monotonous sex if you let it or it can open some other doors to a great experience. If all we want to do is reach orgamsm then its a breeze, we know each other and know what to touch and when to touch it and that can end things pretty quick,that is if that is what we are trying to do.
My wife enjoys mental stimulation, I know this and use it to help keep her wanting me more. I will send her a text message describing things that I am going to do to her when we go to bed. Alot of times too I will send her a text picture of my cock all hard just to give her the added visual. I always change things up, I do not just say "im gonna fuck you", but will instead tell her how im going to do it. Sometimes its oral, teasing, fingering, etc etc etc... Which ever it is I say im going to do that will be given the most attention while we have sex. I try to build that one sexual act up as for it to be showcase of our sexual experience for said evening. This really seems to work well for her, I mean we will still do the normal stuff that we both enjoy but I really feel as though giving her the one specific act builds the anticipation to make it seem more special and I try really hard to make sure its the most enjoyable to further both of our pleasure.
My only real advise to other couples who have been together for long periods of time, just change things up. Do not get into the rut of starting and stopping the same way each and every time. Try not to be so predictable. If I touch you here and you touch me there.....yea, you know the same outcome, keep them guessing. I find for us this works alot better than knowing exactly how its gonna start or end. By not knowing it keeps her mind wandering and guessing what is going to happen next, and when she is thinking of having different things done to her she only wants me more.
This post has been edited by Rob2000: Sat Jul 31, 2010 08:28 AM
Posted Sat Jul 31, 2010 02:49 PM
I flirt with my wife a bit especially after she just gets out of the showr... I love smacking her on the rump. Or I will come up behind her moving my body close to hers and start grinding on her. There are times I use a suttle approach... Lightly rubbing her crotch turns her on.
As far as getting away from monotony goes, it may be different depending on the couple involved. I would surprise her with a warm bath filled with fragrant roses and a glass of champagne. It would bring a bit of newness to the relationship, and I think getting down to the romance is the best way to turn your lover on...
Posted Wed Aug 04, 2010 11:12 AM
it's not as passionate as in the beginning when we literally stayed in bed all day fucking. lol. but i also love the intimacy and the level of communication you can have with somebody you trust and have been with for so long.
Posted Fri Aug 20, 2010 12:43 AM
I think when things are new, you're so excited to share and get to know the person, afterwhile, it seems that you seem to be afraid to open up, afterall, because you've now been accepted, but whenever you open up, you run the risk of rejection (or so we think).
Does that make sense? it's late and I'm tired, but thought this was an interesting question.
Posted Sun Aug 29, 2010 11:48 AM
these are all the things that I miss from my SO, perhaps if he'd kept them up, we wouldn't be at stalemate now!
Posted Thu Dec 02, 2010 06:23 PM
I agree with this. I try to touch Mr._C. in non-sexual ways as much as possible - holding his hand, running my fingers across his face or through his hair, linking my arm through his when we're walking together somewhere. We even hold hands when we're just laying in bed watching TV. He tickles me a lot, and he is forever patting me on the butt - either in public or at home when I walking up the stairs in front of him. There's a lot of physical touching in our relationship - both sexual and non-sexual.