Posted Wed Aug 11, 2010 08:15 AM
Posted Wed Aug 11, 2010 09:58 AM
Ask her to take your hand and show you what she'd like, all the while reinforcing how sexy she is to you
Posted Wed Aug 11, 2010 01:13 PM
She might be shy about talking about sexual topics. She may not want to seem "unladylike" to you by discussing "dirty" topics with you. A lot of women tend to worry about how their partners view them. And sometimes it can depend on how long you've been together - i.e. if this is a new relationship. But I'm even hesitant sometimes to talk to Mr._C. about things I really want to try because I'm worried about how he'll react and being rejected (and we're engaged and have been together for almost four years now). For example, I'd love to put a finger in his ass and see if the prostate stimulation makes his orgasm more intense and explosive (as that's what I've heard), but I've never once told him about that desire of mine.
One of the best things - if not THE best thing - Mr._C. has ever said to me (more than once, I want to add) is, "Honey, I won't stop loving you if you...," or, "I'm not going to feel any different about you if you...," or, "_________ isn't going to change how I feel about you." Him telling me that I can't possibly turn him off helps me to open up a lot of the time.
She needs to learn that she's able to trust you with her darkest and weirdest fantasies without the fear of how you'll react to her suggestions. I know that you'll probably think or say, "But I'd do whatever she asked me to do if it meant she'd be getting pleasure from it." Make sure you convey that to her. She may still be unsure.
Posted Wed Aug 11, 2010 04:34 PM
Then, it also depends on how long you have been together and what kind of attitude to sex in general she has or displays. If she has some negative attitudes - sex as something dirty and impolite - then it may be smething like mission impossible to make her open up, especially if it is not certain that she really knows what she wants... But it may be a good challenge for adventurous men, sometimes the results are unpredictable and really surprising (however, I have never been a very successful explorer in this area with partners who refused to cooperate).
Good luck to you.
Posted Thu Aug 12, 2010 09:29 PM
Or just get her drunk.