Posted Sat Aug 14, 2010 07:21 AM
Posted Sat Aug 14, 2010 07:53 AM
Posted Sat Aug 14, 2010 08:38 AM
It has been my experience to be true.
I just posted in the other kissing thread, I do feel that the way a person kisses matches the way they have sex.
If I cannot kiss the girl then I am not completely into it. I did not kiss every girl I slept with, to me kissing is more of a passionate thing, which when I had my random hook ups during my younger days, I was not always into all the girls I was sleeping with and I did not want to share that pat of me with all of them. Now the girls I were really into ? Hell Yea I kissed them and tried to enjoy every bit of it, aleast with the oneswho knew how to kiss back.
I once broke up with a girl due to how she kissed, her kissing sucked. I liked her alot and tried to bring her around to kiss more my style, sadly though, it just didn't work and she would retort back to her style which i despised. She was a straight open mouth kisser and did not understand the concept of less = more pleasure & passion. I do not mind open mouth kissing but it needs to be done periodically and not full time. My philosophy is we have lips for a reason, use them, its not all about the tounge. The tounge is just another tool and works a hell of alot better in conjunction with the lips.
Posted Sat Aug 14, 2010 08:39 AM
Posted Sat Aug 14, 2010 09:13 AM
What was so bad about it?
Posted Sat Aug 14, 2010 09:41 AM
Personally I find kissing very sexual, and an important role in foreplay, so if the kissing was bad I'd pretty much lose all interest.
Give the girl a second chance by all means, I think it really depends on how much you like this girl
Posted Sat Aug 14, 2010 09:43 AM
I blogged about kissing and how to change it a bit if you can, hope this helps.
We’ve all kissed the man/woman who squashes your nose, cutting off your airway and forcing you to breathe through your mouth, when I got one of them, I would pull back and take one of his lips I’n mine, leaving space at my nostrels so i could breathe easily, and gently suck his lips until he was forced to stop the pressing, I would go back to the kiss again and it generally worked.
Then you would get the mouth soaker/washing machine, the one who would soak your lips and chin in saliva as he roamed his tongue around, not giving you a chance to move at all, filling your mouth with cold saliva, totally vomit inducing. I would push their tongues back out with mine and when the tongue came back, i’d suck the end of it until he cut out the forcing.
There is also the wanting a fuck kisser, they only kiss you when they want to be fucked, they turn me totally off, I can’t cope with a fuck kisser unless I want to fuck him. The only thing to do with one of them is to pull away completely and bury your face in their neck while holding them at arms length until its polite to make your excuses and leave lol, often you meet them pissed in a nightclub at the end of the night!
Posted Sat Aug 14, 2010 11:37 AM
Posted Sat Aug 14, 2010 06:54 PM
Posted Sat Aug 14, 2010 07:14 PM
But I've been that only wanted to kiss when I wanted to get laid guy when I was in my 20's, although, I usually got it anyway.
But it's odd to me when a women is a bad kisser, because many of them just enjoy the act of kissing, and it means a lot to them. I've learned to enjoy kissing, especially light kisses all over the body.
Posted Mon Aug 16, 2010 07:08 AM
Posted Tue Aug 17, 2010 05:23 PM
This girl being a bad kisser doesn't necessarily mean she'll be bad in bed, too. Honestly, the only way you'll ever know if she's actually bad in bed is to sleep with her.
I'd give her a second chance at least. She may have been really nervous. Or maybe she just hasn't practiced a lot and doesn't have the skills to be a good kisser yet. Maybe you could teach her how to kiss better.
Try telling her to stay still and not move at all while you kiss her. Kiss her how you like to be kissed - while she's totally still and just feeling what you're doing. If she moves at all, stop kissing her and in a teasing way tell her that you won't kiss her unless she follows the rules. Then, when you've kissed her how you like to be kissed, ask her to do the same thing you just did back to you while you don't move. If you're just staying still and feeling her kiss you, you might be able to figure out what exactly it is that she's doing wrong. You can do this several times with different types of kisses - soft ones, hard ones, wet ones with tongue, etc. Each time, try to have her repeat what you did.
But whatever you do, DON'T tell her she's a bad kisser!!!!!!!!! If you care at all about her feelings, self-esteem, confidence, etc., try your best to stay positive and not put her down.